June 9, 2006

i can’t help falling in love with you

L is for the way you look at me
O is for the only one I see
V is very very extraordinary
E is even more than anyone that you adore can…

So I was having a discussion with some friends last night, and we all were talking about our dysfunctional ex-relationships. While talking about one of mine, I said, “I loved him.. or I thought I did. I think it’s possible that I just convinced myself it was love.”

My friend replied, “If you think it is love at the time, then it is. Because if you think it’s love, then in your mind there’s no difference. Otherwise, how would you ever ‘really know’?”

I’d never thought about it that way before, but it makes sense to me now. It’s easy to say after the fact, “Maybe I never really loved him” (or her as the case may be) because by the time you’re able to say that, it’s likely that you’ve gotten over or are in the process of getting over the relationship. You’re in the process of *not* being in love anymore.

That being said, I don’t really believe in ‘love at first sight’… but if a person thinks they are in love upon first sighting the object of their affections, what’s the difference? If, in fact, thinking you are in love makes it so because you can’t differentiate between the two, then where do you draw the line?

Last week, the thought briefly crossed my mind that I was falling in love with a friend of mine that is almost completely unattainable. But me being me, I had to go and analyze it down to me feeling attached to him because of my ability to comfort him while he was going through a breakup with his girlfriend. But if thinking its so makes it so…

I have analyzed myself out of being “in love” more times than I care to count, simply because I thought I was “convincing” myself that I was in love because I liked the feeling of being in love. But now that I think about it, and with this new theory of thinking its so makes it so, because there’s no difference in your mind… what if I let my “feelings” run their course? Self-analyzing yourself out of things is soooo exhausting.

*sigh* In any case, my train of thought appears to have jumped its tracks. I think this is something that I will revisit again in the future. In the meantime… thoughts?

oh and btw, i’ve brought back public notes… maybe permanently, but i haven’t decided yet

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Emmy Lou

June 10, 2006

I say stop wondering if it’s love or not and just enjoy the warm fuzzy feelings 🙂 x

joshlt

I read somewhere that “Truth suffers from too much analysis”

ImperfectlyBeautiful

June 11, 2006

love is a tricky thing..and I think love differs from person to person…depending on how ppl percieve it to be! xoxx jezsyka

WantingMore

June 12, 2006

my perception of love has changed a lot over the years… I think your friend is talking about the feelings of infatuation. It was over a year ago you made me stop and think about virginty. I will have to give this more thought.

Marry'D

It sounds, to me, like you’re trying too hard to not fall in love. Just let go and don’t analyze — a scary thing, I know, but the only way to be truly loved, yourself, and give all of yourself to someone else — which they deserve (and you, too). Have you seen “Somethings Got To Give?” A hilarious rendition of this concept (with Diane Keaton and Jack Nicholson)… 🙂

Minuete

Thanks for the note 🙂 I think love is a very abstract thing, there’s not clear cut answer either way. I don’t think you chose who to fall inlove with but there are different kind of in love. Obsessive, needy, etc.I was definatly needy with the guy I was with before my husband, which is odd because I didn’t even really like him. He was more of a habit than anything but I was sure I couldn’t(cont)

(cont) go on without him. Obviously I was wrong. And as for the guy you like, well, I guess you need to decide which is worse . . . not saying something and wishing you had, or saying something and wishing you hadn’t.

Wisa♥

ryn: hahahaha Im totally gonna repost that and add that one on! 🙂

love stinks dude. anyway, ryn: you werent on my favorites because you alwasy noted me so i could always find a link to your diary. i started noting julia before she even talked to me so i wanted to keep reading her stuff and i didnt wanna hafta keep searching for her OD so i just added it for a quick link. but then i realized its a pretty special thing to be on someones favorite list. so you

Writerzblock

have been added to my favorites now. you really are one of my favorites ya know? i didnt just add you cuz you asked. -daniel.

love is whatever you want it to be. Thats the beauty of it. Its when you embrace a feeling that overcomes you so much thats all it could be is love.

schoner engel

there have been many times I’ve questioned my own ideas of what love is.. I’m still asking myself those questions. I think it goes beyond my logical understanding in many cases.

I’m honored that you would want to read me – I’m NO WHERE NEAR the writer that you are… I’ve neglected that part of my life for awhile. I used to write quite well years ago. So, thank you!

=Delivered=

i loved you yesterday. i love you today. i love you always. <

dude, how do you add chapters? -daniel.