he’s just not that into me?

could it really be that simple? it can’t be…

so i was watching oprah yesterday (and don’t even tell me that that sounds pathetic… i love oprah) and they were doing an updates show. apparently a few weeks ago (on an episode i missed) they featured the author of this book (a guy by the way, so supposedly an expert) “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys”
so they started naming all these scenarios that are indicative of a guy who’s just not that into you… and in the back of my mind i was thinking ‘wow this really sounds like me and ryan’ but then i started making excuses like, ‘oh well he’s just a shy person,’ and ‘this can’t possibly apply to teenagers too’.. so, fairly satisfied with my excuses i hadn’t given it any further thought… however, i was still intrigued by the book itself, and so took oprah’s advice and looked it up on amazon.com… the product description included an excerpt of Chapter 1, which you can read in its entirety here and as i was reading it, i was like OMG… especially when it got to the part about excuses he makes for not calling (sound familiar? a lil too familiar for my tastes) … look

“Oh sure, they say they’re busy. They say that they didn’t have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.”

so then i started to think again… is it *really* that much different for teenagers? maybe i should write to the author of this book (he says he recieves 3 new stories an hour) and ask him… although it might be beneficial if i actually read the book in its entiretly first…(*click* ‘add to cart’ *click* ‘checkout’)…. but i suppose it could be true… he says he loves me, but maybe, just maybe, he’s just not that into me

peace,
~jen

PS–ryan, if you’re reading this, now would be your cue to tell me i’m wrong, or the book’s wrong… that you really are just shy… that you really do just hate the phone that much that there could be a million and one things more important than picking it up and talking to your girlfriend whom you claim to love, even for just a few minutes… do you realize how pathetic this sounds?

PPS– the guy also said that any guy who really *is* into you, but doesn’t meet the description in the book needs to (and i quote) “learn how to be a better boyfriend!!!”