Let’s dish

I’m a guy (duh) but I don’t like blowjobs.  From what I’ve heard (from both men and women), I must be the one guy in a million who doesn’t.  I was married 8 years before my wife made me cum from a blowjob.  Before then, a blowjob was just a 2 minute prelude to other sex.  I still don’t like ’em that much, but once or twice a year, they’re OK.  Maybe I’ve never had a good one?  Hmmmmm.

In the last few years, my libido has been shot to hell.  I guess I should do something about that.  Unfortunately, I don’t have anyone who’s willing to help me with it…  so I guess it’s up to me.  Once again, I have to do it myself.

Yep, I look at other women…  just about ALL the time.  I admire the women who are out in public, walking/jogging and taking care of their bodies.  Those women are HOT – and I don’t mean visibly.  Those woman (mostly over 30) whom are investing in themselves & boosting their self esteem – not letting themselves go…  not using the excuse: "well, I had a child, and my body changed, and now I can’t" – those women are really attractive to me.  They don’t necessarily have to be thin or have big breasts or a hot ass either.  In fact, I don’t like muscular women or thin women.

OK, so not all women have time to take care of themselves.  Some women work at full time jobs and don’t have the luxury of free time while the kids are in school.  My wife is one of those…  she works 8-9 hours a day at a major corporation.  What my wife has is a husband who helps around the house & wrangles the kids.  She has "free time" to herself because of me.  She chooses to watch TV or use her computer to surf online shopping sites for shoes or clothes or accessories or kids stuff.  Sometimes she crochets, although she hasn’t done much of that this year.  She doesn’t walk on our treadmill or go to a local gym or even walk the neighborhood.  Nope, she chooses to sit.  I guess I should just say "oh well" and leave it at that.

At 39, I can’t see giving up on myself and being unhappy with my body and just living with it.  That’s just me, though.  I’m more likely to do something about it than wallow in status quo.  It’s too bad that I picked a wife who has such a different philosophy on life.

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October 27, 2007

they might kick you out of the men’s club for that, they have very strict rules.

October 27, 2007

From what I understand, it’s quite the experience. As far as the rest is concerned… If you make time to eat and sleep, you can surely make time to work out and take care of your body. It should be a priority, just like the aforementioned.

October 27, 2007

what came first, her bad body image and lack of desire to change/improve herself? or your lack of desire for her and your affair? Maybe she’s given up because she knows you don’t want her sexually anymore. Dr Phil knows what he’s talking about too. You’re right in so many of your entries about marriage.

October 27, 2007

also there are a LOT of women out there who give bad/mediocre blow jobs. I think if you had a proper blowjob you’d like it, but it’s a hard skill to master.

October 27, 2007

I can totally relate. I have absolutely no desire for sex these days.

October 27, 2007

You have my sympathies. My husband used to get pissed off at me for our lack of sex life. Which in turn made me mad (am I supposed to just pretend or force myself???). When he thought he was losing me for good, he just backed off completely, and just followed my lead. I felt like I could breathe, and some desire came back. Of course, we worked on other issues, too.

December 1, 2007

RYN: Dead or Alive? I’m not sure what you’re getting at.

December 29, 2007

RYN: I know. That’s why I changed the title to Down to the Cellular Level. lol And why aren’t you writing anymore?

January 15, 2008

RYN: LOL – too much crime drama on TV. That is what a co-worker said. I almost never watch TV, but the last two nights, I have been watching that new Terminator show. Still, not thinking that is it, but still a funny thought. Thanks. 🙂

January 17, 2008

RYN: Prednisone makes him completely LOOPY. My daughter, it doesn’t affect so much. I’ve been running steam all over the house for them. And unfortunately, Singulair is an expensive drug for us in our plan. We try to get it for my son, but it’s not consistent. 🙁 Thanks for stopping by.