mysteries of the world, part 1

 alright.  so my opinion on sex is obviously more interesting than my opinion on god.  gotcha.  well…what the audience demands….
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actually…as much as i  KNOW sex fascinates you all…i think its relationships that hold the weight to be worthy of commentary.  

okay, heres where i’m sorta heading (at least for now).  i’ve always wondered why relationships pan out the way they do.  when you start to become romantically involved with someone, everything is so insanely easy to accomplish.  bad days can melt away in a snap.  you feel like you hardly have to go out of your way to make them and yourself happy.  then…time moves on…and you pass over some mysterious threshold…and nothing is ever good enough…nothing is easy, and your s.o. no longer makes sense at all.  you’ve suddenly got no clue how to make them happy and keep them there.

you think to yourself, "do i have freaking amnesia?  i could DO this yesterday.  who the hell hit me over the head with a brick?"

so what DOES happen?  and why, at the beginning of a relationship, can you so easily accomplish things with that person? is it because you don’t know them well enough?  maybe.  but i doubt it.  

chemicals and all that, right?  i’m sure it is.  but, quite literally, we naturally, without aid, are able to fulfill the other person’s wants and needs.  after the amnesia point, we have to buy self-help books to tell us how to do the exact same things on a conscious level…but up front…we just know.

for example:
-we know to show our guys the respect they need, to let them make decisions, open doors, and buy dinner.
-we, as females, ALSO know that sex is insanely important to them, and wouldn’t turn down a sack session for the world.
-we understand that guys are gonna look at other girls, but we can restrain from jealousy.

and the guys, you’re getting it all right too
-you tell us we’re beautiful, and brilliant, and fantastic…you allay all our insecurities (which is why, in those first few months, you’ll never hear us ask if we look fat in something, because we KNOW how perfect we are to you…also why we aren’t jealous of those other girls.)
-you listen to us as we talk about all our useless girl brain chatter and don’t get impatient and annoyed

so i’m asking y’all:  where does this all get lost?  and why do we have to spend hours arguing and analyzing and reading self-help books to get it all back?  a lot of people suggest, and i guess i could agree to an extent, that those first few months are just a product of infatuation.  how many times has your s.o. suggested to you that if you would just act like you did THEN that everything would be great…and didn’t you absolutely roll your eyes at them?  and, ultimately, if you find the right person, do you not get hit with that brick?  does it just continue and grow?  alright.  come on guys.  i know you’re all fond of a good discussion.  think about it. 

peace.