Not comparing yourself to other girls

So, as girls, we have this amazingly bad habit of comparing ourselves to other girls….. There’s this guy that I like…. way out of reach, and he’s older. Now, the girl he is dating is very thin, she’s pretty and close to his age…. Anywaysit is really intimidating and makes me want to give up all hope.

   He’s 28, she’s 27. I’m 21……(almost)

   HOWEVER, I believe in God having that person set for you. Whether they are with someone now, makes no difference. Because if you’re meant to be together, it will happen. Maybe this girl is borderline retarded. Maybe she grows bored easily with guys…. maybe she’ll just realize they’re not meant to be together… or he will.

    I just have to put in the faith that eventually, I will be with exactly who I am suppose to, so long as I travel along the road God has set forth.

    Although, I am feeling IMMENSE pressure from everyone. Mel keeps asking me to come sooner and if I dont jump on it, she gets defensive and hurt….. the pressure she lays on me although unintentional, makes me waver in my decision to move there. My mom makes me feel like if I go out there, I will be nothing but rejected and that in turn, I am rejecting my whole family.

     Everyone says just go for it. And I will. (so long as I am not continually pressured to move sooner and sooner. Although there are some just reasons behind it, I dont like any pressure in any form whether intentional or not)

   But its just sooooo weird when you feel in your heart that you are SO compatible with someone…. its such a weird feeling. I feel soooo compatable to him, and I feel like he could be the one… Yes, he is with someone, I know. He lives far away too. However, I will focus on me and the path God has set before me. If I do that, he just may be on that road to my destiny, and this feeling I had, was right all along….. I may be short, and dont have the body of a model as she does, but I have character, I have charm, I’m funny, im goofy, I’m pretty, i have an athletic body…….

    Keep your chin up. Do things for yourself. Keep your goals high. Keep what you think of yourself high. do things just for you. Keep your family close, even if they dont agree with what you’re doing…. same with your friends. Cuz if there’s one thing I’ve learned, its do things for yourself…. though thats a big DUH to most people, you truly have to learn it the hard way before it truly sticks……

   Girls remember- QUIT COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!

If you’re really skinny and you want curves. cuz guys like that now- just be yourself. Be healthy. work out. You’ll get as healthy body as you can….. As long as you dont look like skin and bones, you’re good!

If you’re not amazing in a swimming suit- work out, eat healthy. You dont have to be a skinny mini! truly, they dont like that!

    Say a guy has done nothing but date the skinny mini type and you’re definetly not that…. well, if he keeps going through them, soon he’ll realize the pattern—- just be yourself…. EVERYONE has a chance, seriously. I had a certain guy type I liked, and I ended up liking Michael, the good guy. (that’s not said boy above)

   Anyways, every girl should be able to feel good about herself. I am trying to. I am trying to do all that I can do. You can only do your best. I am trying not to over work myself, or starve myself, or try too hard to be something I’m not. I know what I deserve, and I know what I feel, and I know I sound crazy….. BUT, I am trying to look on the bright side of things these days…..and you should too!