second date with kevin :)

saturday was my 2nd date with kevin.  we were going to have some wine and chill at his house after he returned from a wedding.  i got there about 11:15 at night (traffic was bad and i got a late start since the rain caused the gps to go wonky at first).  he immediately handed me a cold glass of wine.  from a drinking glass, haha.  we settled in and chatted.  earlier that day, i wasn’t sure what we would chat about.  i seriously had NO topics in mind!  so at first we talked about the wedding and made small talk.  then, we got into more serious conversations.  he asked about my ex and what went down with him and i found out more about his soon to be ex-wife.  it was nice, and i learned a lot about him.  meanwhile, we are consuming the giant bottle of wine.  so, at one point, i leaned over to him to kiss him and then we ended making out like teenagers haha.  it was fun!  he stopped me at one point and said if we didn’t stop now, we weren’t going to.  and i told him that i wasn’t sleeping with him because i wanted him to respect me and i wanted to respect myself.  that sparked a whole new conversation and, of course, he was trying to convince me to sleep with him anyway.  i am proud to say i did not though i totally wanted to!  i actually told him that i did not shave on purpose to avoid sleeping with him, lol.

anyway, we took a potty break and when i came out, he was in his room, dressed for bed.  i went in there and we chatted a second and he decided i needed to sleep there since i had been drinking and it was late (4am!).  so, he promised not to try anything and i settled into his bed.  four hours later i was waking up and he stirred a bit.  we snuggled and went back to sleep.  i kept waking up every so often (oh, i slept fully dressed except for my shoes), and checking my watch.  a little before 10am i said i needed to get going.  so we woke up and started fooling around again.  still no sex, but we went further than we did the night before.  we talked and talked and talked again, and he was eating his kids’ easter candy haha.  the boy can EAT.  holy crap!  he told me what he typically gets when he goes out for fast food and jesus!  its more than james ate and james was my piggiest boyfriend (not large by any means, just had a MAJOR appetite!).  so, he suggested we eat something and he ordered a pizza which i ate 2 slices and he ate the rest. 

after eating, we chatted some more and just hung out together.  he asked me if i was in a relationship, would i ever want to go back to the time when i was sleeping around and single and enjoying life.  that sparked another big conversation and i basically told him no, thats not what i’m looking for.  i enjoyed that time and will remember it fondly, but i’m ready to settle.  he said he was in the same boat, and its hard to date when he is on such a tight budget.  but, we both agreed that we are looking for someone to hang out with and not really date around.  when i left, he asked me (jokingly) if i was going to call "all the other guys" and tell them to back off.  i laughed and said yes and then we said good bye and i left.  so, i’m not sure if we agreed to not see other people, but its too soon to tell.  i had a FANTASTIC time and i don’t want to see other people but i think its too soon to decide and i don’t want to bug him about it.  one of my coworkers who is in a similar situation said she thinks he was feeling out what i thought and kinda stating that he wants to be exclusive but not yet.  which i am totally fine with. 

overall, it was FANTASTIC!  i could so totally fall in love with this guy.  he has so many qualities of my exs.  he has mike’s laugh face and goofiness, james’s appetite, gene’s experience, all rolled into one super hot man.  the only catch is he said he is not having more kids.  but, i think its really soon after his divorce and if we do stay together, i can get him to compromise on that.  🙂  (that was a lot of the topics we talked about–relationships, compromise, me wanting kids). 

i’m so freaking happy!  i really hope that he feels the same way and that we can hang out again soon.  maybe next week some time 🙂