JaSurMo [6]

Survey # 6 – Relationship Survey

Family Relationships

1. How well do you get along with your parents?
— Get along really well with my Mom, and have no relationship with my father at all.

2. If you do have siblings, are you close to them?
— I’m semi-close to my sister, but not to my brother at all.

2a. If you are close to them, it is because of being close in age or further in age?
— We’re three years apart, my sister and I, and we never got close until recently.

2b. If you are NOT close to them, why?
— I’m not close to my brother because he’s just like his father… an addict, a liar, and a thief.

2c. What would you do in order to get closer to your siblings?
— There’s not much that I would do, not to get closer to my brother at least.

3. Do you wish you had siblings? Why?
— I have siblings… I sometimes wish I was an only child, but I think anyone who has siblings wishes that once in a while.

4. Did you know your grandparents? (If no, skip to question 5).
— I knew my maternal grandmother.

4a. How close were you to them?
— I was as close as a kid could be to their grandma, before we moved when I was 5 years old.

4b. Do you respect them?
— I didn’t respect her as much as I should have.

4c. Have you ever made your grandparents cry, or disappoint them?
— Not that I know of.

5. Why do you not know your grandparents?
— My fraternal grandparents died without me ever meeting them, and my maternal grandfather, I met once.

6. Does your entire family (not just immediate) get along?
— For the most part, my mom’s family does.

7. Are family reunions fun on both of your parents sides or is one boring and the other fun, etc?
— We don’t have family reunions with both sides, or either side, really.

8. What would you do if your family hated your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse?
— It’s happened… My mom’s pretty cool about it, just letting me make my own mistakes, and my sister’s more vocal about it.

9. Does it really matter?
— At the time, it doesn’t, but looking back, I realize they were right most of the time, if not all the time.

10. What does family mean to you?
— Family is not only the people who are your blood kin, they’re the people who stand by you no matter what, and who are always going to be there for you.

Friendship Relationships

1. What is a friend?
— A friend is someone who’s one step away from being family.

2. Who are your friends?
— Bonnie, Jen, Scott, Brandon, and a couple others.

3. Is there any of your friends you don’t really consider a friend, more of an acquaintance?
— I have a few of those.

4. How did you meet your best friend?
— We were in class together back in middle school

5. Can one person have more than one best friend?
— I can’t see why not.

6. Can a boy and a girl be just friends?
— Of course they can; some of my best friends in high school were guys.

7. What is the number one thing you will NOT tolerate in friends?
— Dishonesty.  Seconded only by backstabbing.

8. If you had to give a number, how many friends would you say you have (and you can’t say a lot or none…it has to be a number like 3 or 200, etc)
— Mmm… I’d say around 20 or so.

9. Have any of your current friends backstabbed you? Why?
— None of my current friends have… my friends aren’t friends if they do that.

10. Do you think you’re a good friend? Why?
— I try to be a good one.

Romance Relationships

1. Are you currently single, involved, married, or divorced?
— It’s complicated?  I’m involved currently.

2. Do you like your current marital status? Why or why not?
— I do. Again, the whole situation’s kind of complicated, but I like it.

3. If you are involved or married, how many months/years have you been together/married?
— We’ve been together for a year or so now.  I can’t remember exactly.  Time’s realy elastic for me.

4. What is love?
— Love is when someone else’s happiness and well being means more to you than your own.

5. Do you see marriage as a thing of the past or will marriage continue to be a mainstream thing? Why?
— As Archaic as it may be, it’ll still be a mainstream thing as long as the Christian religion and taboos are still in effect.

6. Can you really love someone of the same sex and not confuse it with lust/sexual cravings? Why or why not?
— Yes.  I know that it’s possible to love someone of the same sex and not have it just “lust.”

7. Can you be in a polyamourous relationship and still love someone?
— Of course you can!  Being polyamourous doesn’t stop you from loving your partners, in fact it gives you more freedom to love.

8. Have you ever considered being in a polyamourous relationship?
— I’ve been in a couple of them.

9. Do looks really matter in a romantic relationship?
— They do to a certain extent… if you’re not sexually attracted to a person, then it’d make a relationship harder on some levels.

10. How important should intimacy be in a relationship?
— It’s extremely important.  Sex may not be as much, but intimacy is… the intimacy of doing things as a couple, touching and holding and cuddling, etc.

Sex Relationships

1. Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
— Yes, I’ve had a couple.

2. How do you feel about purely sexual relationships?
— If both people know that it’s purely sexual and concent to it, then there’s no problem.

3. If you answered yes to the first question, would you ever be friends with benefits with someone again?
— I don’t see why not, if I find the right person.

3b. What was it like having non-commited sex?
— Just because there was non-commited, it doesn’t mean that there wasn’t love of a kind there.

3c. Are you currently in one or did it disappear or did you become a couple?
— It disappeared.  There was no hard feelings.

4. If people married basically just because someone was good in bed, would that marriage have a better chance of surviving than a person who married someone for love and they had little sexual skills? Why or why not?
— Personally I think the marrying for love with no sexual skills will have the better chance – you can always teach the skills as you go along.

5. Would you ever have sex with more than one person?
— If I find the right people, I don’t see why not.

6. Have you ever had sex with more than one person? When? What was it like?
— Never had sex with more than one person.

7. Can sex toys help or hurt a relationship (non commited sex or a romantic relationship)
— Sex toys can help, as long as they’re not being used exclusively.

8. Do you like having sex with your current partner? Why or why not? (If you do not have one, skip this question)
— Yes, yes I do.

9. Have any of your sexual fantasies came true?
— I don’t have many fantasies, but one or two of them’ve come true so far.

10. Is premarital sex a true sin? Why or why not?

— I don’t think it is, but it’s all in the religious background the person has.