9/30/06

Ever just wanted to grab someone and be brutally honest with them to the point where you know that a slap or punch will soon be coming in your direction?  My best friend has a habit of calling and not talking…usually i don;t mind, but this time it lit my fuse.

The Call:

ring ring.

me: "Hello"

Him: " Sigh!"…."Oh man !"  ( so melodramatic )  "Sigh! Hey man ."

Me: "Hey. I’m right in the middle of eating , can i call you back later?"

Him : "Sigh !…yeah i guess.  Sigh!"

Me: ( staring at my food knowing full well thats it’s about to get colder than it already is ) "Whats wrong ? " I knew i shouldn’t have asked because chances are it’s going to be the same old thing…He’s going to bitch about his job…the job that he took knowing full well that the hours he would be working would be a bitch and that when your the boss it’s not a fun time.

Him: " I don’t want to bother you with it . Sigh!" 

Me : " Little late to be worried about bothering me with it don’t you think?"  " let me guess….this has something to do with your job?"  I knew I was being an asshole to him but I didn’t care. it’s always the same thing about how he hates the hours and the stress and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

Him: " You don’t have to be an asshole. I just called to vent a little …It’s what friends do."

Me: click…i hung up on him

That was it …thats what lit the fuse . It’s what friends do. Oh really! Actually i thought that friends were always there for each other…not just there to bitch about the fucking job that you took knowing full well what you were getting yourself into …FUCK ME !!!! you watched me pretty much go through a nervous breakdown when i was the foreman at my old shop. And here’s just a little reminder of a long ago conversation that we had one time…i called you and needed to vent and in your exact words…" D  no offence but I don;t want to hear about your probelms at work" thats right fucker…you said it to me …now i know that I’m not supposed to carry a grudge against friends , or anyone else for that matter but this time i’m not letting it go …My best friend, It may seem odd but I don;t talk to him about anything thats bugging me , I don;t tell him about the women I date, I don;t tell him when things are buggin me . I’ve learned my lesson on more than a few occasison. telling this guy something in confidence is like filling a strainer with beer and expecting it to not drip out. It’s not his fault , he’s a gossip hound…He’s pretty good at keeping things quiet , until he has a drink…then the flood gates open. So this is how i handle it …he starts to vent and i become an asshole it works..it’s disfunccional as all get out , but it works .