Miscarriage II
WARNING SOMEWHAT GRAPHIC DESCRIPTION HERE: On Saturday, I think it was 4/24, she started sort of having a dark discharge. I wasn’t concerned because I had gone through that myself, with my son, so I figured it was really nothing. Many of the ladies on the forums she goes to thought it was nothing to worry about either. My advice to her was to not be so active, to sit down and put her feet up, which she did. We didn’t do anything much over the whole week-end, just sat around and watched TV or she went online. On Monday she called into her work and went to the doctor. The doctor had to leave to go to an emergency, but the nurse sent my daughter over to the hospital for an ultrasound.
Later my son-in-law called me and said that the ultrasound nurse told them that the baby was not viable. There was no heartbeat and it had basically shrunk to like a 6-week old fetus size. My daughter was devastated.I stayed home from work that Tuesday but was due to leave to go see my Mom in Fla. on Weds. There was much sobbing and even screaming at my house that night as she tried to deal with the fact she was not going to have a baby now. She, however, was okay with me still going on my trip.
I left to Florida the next morning, early, but she called me many times while I was there. That Friday she began to hemmorhage and eventually passed the baby I guess. It was frightening, painful, and extremely bloody so when she called me I told her to go to the hospital. By the time she got there, however, they thought the worst was over. Fortunately a lady at her work earlier in the day had been through miscarriage before and helped her, reassured her, and took care of her until her husband came to get her. It was really horrible.
She spent the week-end with her inlaws. Thank God they are such wonderful, nurturing people. When I got back she and her husband stayed with us.
On Tuesday (5/4) when I came home from work, she told me that her husband got fired from his job. That just about completed her meltdown. I paid their cobra insurance (thank God for income tax returns) and took her to the doctor so she could get a referral to see a counselor as well as some prescriptions to help her through this time.