FetLife Drama

 Today was a great day, but I’m quite sick of the popularity contest that is going on amidst my groups of friends.

Previous drama has been semi-explained.  Not going into it too much.

Not sure what i have shared on this, but frankly…no longer care.

I am a part of FetLife.  It’s a social media network very very similar to Facebook, but take away the zynga and other apps–oh yes, and it’s basically all about sex and for people who are open sexually in general.  It is MOSTLY in regards to bdsm relate things, but basically it is for anyone with a fetish of some sort and those who would like to be open about it somewhere, and find like-minded, (mostly) non-judgmental people.

This being said, I’ve been on Fetlife for a little over a year now…I met the latest bf/gf there, amongst other really awesome people, a couple of which I now consider to be very close friends.

But on FL, ever since "the break up" our group of friends in our LaX group have become segregated more or less.  There are a good amount of people who were absolutely clueless as to wtf was going on and remain friendly with both sides.  Congrats to them, because I’m sick of this fricken bullshit.  There are some who are neutral in that…they are fiends with me or others on apparently "my side", even though I refuse to believe I have a "side", and they are also good friends with my exes.  I have no problem with this.  then there are the select couple who have become…well…enemies more or less.

The thing is, I continue to be the person who won’t dislike a person because they dislike me.  Right now the bf/gf hate me, and are spreading their words of hate and disgust to a few others in the group so that they too will dislike me.  First of all, I find that completely immature.  Let your friends make their own judgments.  I am way okay with any of my friends being friends with either of them because I’m the one that has differences with them, not them, and I’m not going to make them choose one over the other. That’s just dumb. Sometimes we have things or do things that our friends don’t like…but instead of freaking out, we just choose not to participate in those things.  Anywho, I digress..

There were some minor discomforts in that the group was unofficially divided.. But after the night of unofficial division, the other mini group (aka my ex and a couple of her closest fet friends) decided to make a new group that basically declare they were better than us (Super Awesome La Crosse Kinkiersters).  Okay…a few of us had a laugh because, it’s kind of pathetic.  I feel like I’m in fucking high school all over again when I see this shit. It’s ridiculous.  Anyways, a couple of people joined the group.  There was actually one person I was impressed, who did not join the group.  EVen though she is close with my ex, she seemed very much "want to stay out of this".  Well what happened today must have tripped her off.

There was an event today…a picnic that would involve some interesting demonstrations and fun times.  No sex.  Just things along the bdsm lines.  Everyone in our LaX group was invited, included those who chose to seclude themselves.  There was a lot of fun to be had.  After the picnic, though, my friend decided he was going to post how great the event went…and he overdid it.  It was clear to me, and I’m sure clear to those who deliberately decided they couldn’t come that was in that group, that he was trying to rub it in their faces to show that we can have a hell of a good time without them.  This was not direct AT ALL, but he even told me while I was at work that he just posted how great of a time was to be had…and he had repeated it so many times, it was unnecessary.  Well, this must have tripped off the girl who was trying to just stay out of it…she joined the SALCK group, but then was talking about how AWESOME of a day she had having sex so many times and then hanging out with someone else.

To be honest, I found BOTH of their comments to be unnecessary.  I’m sick of this "one up" shit.  Why can’t we all just keep living our lives and stop acting like children trying to get into each other’s faces? If you have a problem with someone, just stop associating with them…cut them out of your life…there’s no need to make anyone else’s life worse or attempt to just because you’re unhappy.

I love fetlife. It’s the website I’ve been looking for since i was 16, even though that age is wrong on so many levels…none the less..I was looking for a place to learn, a place to explore, a place to meet people who experience the same sort of thoughts and desire that I do so that I would not seem/feel so different, wrong, or bad.  It’s my escape. It’s where I can be me and talk about what I want to talk about without feeling restricted.  But i’m THIS close *makes gesture of small amount of space between 2 fingers* from just saying "fuck this."  I don’t need the childish drama. I came on fet to learn from and read forums, to see amazing photos of things I love, to learn, to read stories, to share experiences, and to find like minded people who I would eventually call my friends.  I didn’t come on for a popularity contest and I didn’t come on to be judged, bitched at, be picked on, to ruin people’s lives, to watch others ruin each others lives, to watch bickering fights…just none of it.

I’d rather have a small group of very close trustworthy friends than a large group of friends who are going to back stab each other because they may or may not be closer with others in the group.