Family

Things aren’t so good in that department right now.

My youngest sister has been on her own path since she and her husband split in May.  That is fine and I understand that she is going through something I couldn’t possibly understand cuz I haven’t been in that situation.  I have spoken to her on the phone once since June – she called me on my birthday.  She would respond to a text every couple weeks if I initiated the contact.  I asked her what was going on and she said that she wasn’t purposely avoiding me and was just going through something.  Anything that happened in her life, I read about on Facebook.  Interesting that she had time to post many times a day and no time to contact her sister. 

The problem is that she didn’t want to hear anything I had to say.  The two times she did text me in the past couple months consisted of hours of her complaining about her ex and his children.  I encouraged her to let go of the anger and focus on her three children and the good in her life rather than the bad.

A couple of weeks ago my sister sent out a mass message on Facebook stating that she has been going through this without that support of her family.  That was the last straw for me.  How dare she send this message out to 30+ people saying such a lie.  She then texted me and again said I had not been supportive.  I told her I would be deleting and blocking her on FB and to have a nice  life.  I was devastated due to the fact that we have constantly been there for her during the past 10+ years that she had been in this relationship.  Accepting eight extra kids to buy birthday and Christmas gifts for.. driving the 4 hours to stay with eleven kids on several occasions so they could "get away".. buying them groceries.. buying the kids school clothes.. etc, etc, etc.

I have put up with her rudeness for years because I was afraid she would keep my niece and nephews from me.  They are now old enough to make that choice for themselves and I’m no longer afraid of her outbursts.  The boys are 19 and 17 and the girl is 13.  They are all keeping in touch and the subject of my relationship (or the lack there of) with their mother has not been mentioned.

It’s still hard at times.. but, I feel a relief and not wondering why she isn’t contacting me.  It’s really not that different than things have been the last few months.  I just don’t read about her life on FB now.

Just needed to get this outta my head…