not everything.. entry 2

property settlement conference today…

had to take a whole day out of my life

pay for return plane fares for myself and a solicitor (and for the solicitor’s time)

fly to the city and back – pay taxi fares to the city and back to airport

had to leave kids to get themselves to school and pay a friend to pop in after school to check them

get there on time, update solicitor with latest (bad) news about the property and the insane ex

discuss options, wait outside with no say… because EX was nearly TWO HOURS late!!

dressed like Jake Elwood from the Blues Bros movie and acted even more insane…

hadn’t got psychiatrists report as requested, didn’t bring ANY financial documentation at all, or even a estimation of his debt levels, or a working phone

did bring with him his equally insane friend  who he appears to have moved in with in the city – having abandoned the farms altogether

this left him with less than an hour and REALLY pissed off his solicitor, the judge and the two other clients his solicitor had

he flatly refused to agree to anything – even his own information – I was taken aside and had huge amounts of concern heaped on me for my personal safety because of his insane threats… advised to lock myself in my house and don’t even look like I am standing next to any male person.. to take out a ‘order’ to keep him away from me.. and to just agree with anything he wants or everything will have to be sold..

when I explained that I didn’t mind if everything had to be sold… things changed..

they must have finally got this through to him and he actually offered me some property – not even near equal share – but with NO liability to pay any of his extraordinary amount of debt he has managed to get himself into that I am still legally liable for.

so had to accept…. tried to make it a little bit more even by asking for the boys motorbikes back and a farm ute.. and got an offer back of LESS!! so had to accept… Hopefully finalised on March 8th and praying I actually recieve the property itself..

Then I may own – outright – a small extremely run down property of three paddocks and a falling down house – in the middle of nowhere.

Hoping to be able to do something with it – not sure what yet – but whatever it is it will be an awful lot of hard work… One boy keen – one not-so – Mr not-so is the older one who has a very good idea of how much work it will be and how far it is from civilisation…

Not sure I’m up for the challenge, but may have little choice in the matter – sigh – so I will try my best… put my trust in the brain the Lord gave me and expects me to use lol

My new love seems to be right there with me – hoping he is – but it is really up to me…