I don’t know, I’m just livin’ my life…

My very old and worn out car (that I saved for 12 months to buy, cash, cheap old thing it is) finally died…

I asked man if he would help us buy another 2nd hand vehicle.

He said no, but he did ring up mechanic to argue that they should be able to fix it (I had to pay though…) and then rang and had long interrogation with 2nd car dealer about the one we (Mr13 and I) had been looking at (for a while) to see if it might be suitable (but did not offer to help pay anything….) – I rang him back explaining that I didn’t have any trouble understanding the mechanic or the process of buying a vehicle but was asking him to help PAY for it (after all he has purchased 6 (yes six) vehicles for his own use in the last 10 years – one cost $23,000 – one 40,000) – and no, we couldn’t borrow any of them…he needs them all..

No, he can’t PAY, he wants to pay of his new harvester, buy another block of land and another 400 sheep, we can drive around in my old (32 year old – not really going at all  – that I keep out for its historic value). Yeah right. Or get mechanic to stick up the cracked head gasket with some glue stuff and spend a couple more grand on the 12 year old one… yeah right.. still paying the last two grand of repairs off…

Pulled the money out of the farming account (of which I have equal access and responsibility) and bought another 2nd hand 5 yr old vehicle – nothing fancy – but practical for me and kids – Subaru Forester.

He demands I go to bank with him to co-sign yet another farming land purchase, and extension on the overdraft for more stock etc – about $350,000 worth – car cost $20,000 – He had a fit at me for the car….

Obviously I said no. No more. Nufs enough. Bank loan suggests man and I separate our financial assets so each can operate separately financially (I had suggested this before too).

Great, says man… she hands over all her share of jointly held assets to me so I can borrow lots more…

Just ‘HAND OVER’??? 3/4 of a mill worth of assetts, I have poured all my finances, labour etc to build up over last 14 years?

Yeah right. I stopped managing our business interests 2 months ago, and he is already in trouble up to $150,000 and is trying to borrow more??? And wants me to, yet again, go into debt/ guarantor him? I just got him out the poo he got himself into, into the good position we are currently (but precariously) in…  and he cant even buy a car!!??!!

Im getting out of the joint financial position, -oh yes  – WITH my share thank you very much – particularly as I know our kids will benefit from it if I look after it – never seemed to occur to the man to put anything in their name or profit aside….