Teenage Grief

I;m getting it ..

you would think that after having herded 3 teens through this chicane in their lives I would be a pro .. oh how sadly mistaken I was .. thinking that I had a handle on the behaviour and rules.

Driving with unlicensed drivers is my bottom line  NO NO .. so when S asked if he could go to the beach with mates .. that the Dad was coming to get them I said yes .. but if the Boys are driving you .. then No as they are on restricted licenses and they are not to have passengers ..

I text and find that he is at the beach .. and Dad did not take them .. the boys drove .. 3 car loads of them all un licensed. All with passengers ,  .. A text war ensued in where I threatened calling the police to come and wait for them to drive away and snap them or that I would come get him .. in the end after talking to another Mum I said ok come home and face the consequences.. ( grounded the remainder of the holidays , 1 week and no cell ph for 4 days) 

I talked about the seriousness and he said ohh whateva!!! its all good , if we get caught I will help pay the fine .. $200 currently.

But S you just don’t get it .. you are breaking the law , your friends are breaking the law .. God Mum everyone does it.

the week goes on and S has work .. not grounded for work .. He asks if he is allowed to go to a mates house to catch up with everyone home from Uni for the hols .. I said not sorry you are grounded untill sunday night .. arms in the air , how unfair , so now I will miss seeing them untill the next holidays in july blah blah blah .. and I said well that was the consequence for your actions and going to the beach with unlicensed drivers .. OMG mum thats so last week are you not over that yet ?? yes I am but the punishment still has to end .. one more day S ..

So Saturday he goes to work and texts that he is not going to  come home .. a few text messages later and he says he will be home Sunday 4pm after work.  a phone call to work and we discuss this again ..  he is so rude .. just laughing at me when I say he must be home .. like yeah right Mum .. I’m not going to be .. so I said I would come get him from his friends house and he said well I wont go there I will go somewhere else .. so I will wait for you outside work .. I’d like to see you try he said .. I’m going out..

BIG FAT GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Late I calmly send a text to him saying fair enough , but the consequence will be that you loose the cell ph again for a few days and will not be meeting friends after school for the week. ..

I want to smash the cell phone but realise thats my one way to communicate with him so that wouldn’t work .. hell i’ll just smash him .. grrrrr.. no answer from his friends house , the mums not there either .. no more cell contact .. he never came home.

I lay in bed this morning awake and stewing ..

the little buggar has just gone and done exactly as he pleased.. he does not give a hoot about the consequences. He just says whateva!! and laughs at me ..

I need a strong come back .. the grounding does not work .. the loss of cell , internet , tv , nothing works .. not allowed to give him a Fkn good hiding .. ( hahaha, I feel like it tho)

So .. no washing .. no cooking ..

I also thought about moving him from his own room into a room that he has to share .. as he does not deserve to have his own room due to lack of respect .

I am so nervous about upsetting him .. and him taking off .. or not coming home or not contacting me .. I want to handcuff the little buggar to his bed. then let him off and see if he behaves ..

If you have some great suggestion .. feel free to pass it on .

TTFN..xox