What I want in a man / relationship

mainly my list .. not too strict .. a little flexible , but some things I do need.

After years in a marriage where I struggled with an opposite and with relationships with men that didn’t have the same ideals or wants as me , I thought maybe looking at what i want will help me understand who I am and what sort of man I want..

I am sort of in a funk..

the man I want I can not have .. (yet or maybe ever)

The man I have in my life only fills 2 requirements..and thats not good enough..

I want out of this , not sure how tho.. and I like the fun..

after a chat with a few friends over their relationships and failing partners I thought about what I want.. need ..

so there are the basics ..

attractive .. to me

strong .. emotionally and physically

working

Honest

 

Then there are the things that he needs to be able to do ..

build or fix stuff

care for the gardens (together)

Dance or be willing to learn(together)

cook (together)

clean(together)

satisfy me sexually

talk on the phone for an hour (to me)

laugh

 and the stuff I want ..

I want to walk the parks of our beautiful country .. or his.

I want someone  to lay in bed and cuddle .. watch a movie

I want someone who will spring out of bed and get things done.

I want someone that cares about how they look and dress

   ^^^^                          ^^^^^   how they smell

^^^^^^                         ^^^^^^   how they act in front of different company (not swearing in earshot of kids / grandmas etc)

I want someone who will come up with the idea of something to do that we will both enjoy

I want someone who likes to entertain

I would like them to have the same ideas for the future

that we care for our grandkids and take them on trips … or have them to stay.

that we travel .. our coutry or the world … just little bits.

 

Bits and peices

romance

suprises

caring

flexible

not angry

preferably no allergies(to grass and major food groups)

playful

serious

adventurous

not lazy  / but willing to be on occasion

 naturalist  …willing to try

 

I’d like to travel on a harley trike .. or campervan ,

I would prefer a non smoker now .. or someone willing to give up..

a social drinker .. not a boozer