sadly….this is a tmi entry read at own risk

My husband and I haven’t had sex in well a Very long time. Which to be honest seems to be the norm this year haha. He expects a bj every time to "put him in the mood!" really?! There are times heck yes I do love to give a good bj but since it is expected it turns me off. I think he gets off lucky because he doesn’t have to do oral on me. I have never really enjoyed it or felt the need for it. I get that he is tired and whatever but come on- We used to have sex everyday sometimes a couple times a day. I think it was last year when we got into a fight because for whatever reason I was ready all the time and he wasn’t and it was interrupting his computer game time. He does like to tease me though which makes me mad sometimes because he will put on one of his colognes that just gets to me haha. Good smelling men turn me on but you have to put the right amount on, some bathe in that crap and I get sick haha. But anyway he puts in on and doesn’t do/want to do anything. YES sex is a huge part of a marriage! I come from a family line of nympho maniacs and cheaters HAHA. So he knew when he married me it was a big part to me. (not the cheating part) I have too much guilt issues to ever actually cheat.

I used to have an app on my phone that would keep track of things like when you had sex, ovulation and when you have your period. Yeah that pissed him off because I would be live omg we only had sex like 2 times this month haha. So I just deleted it, that would be stupid for us to fight over right?! The app was more for me because I am not a same time of the month person 😉 if you know what I mean. 🙂 I do not take birth control because it would be a waste of money because I always forget to take pills, I would die if my life depended on it. I come from a family that has heart problems, high blood pressure, and diabeties. THANKFULLY at 30 I still do not have any problems! Which to me is a good thing since I am overweight and my blood pressure is perfect even when I was pregnant. However I have always ate healthier than most of my family. I just have a hard time staying consistant. OK I am done with this entry LOL

~jillybean~

June 13, 2013

I can relate to your post. My wife always demanded that I give her at least 1 oral orgasm. She made a huge ritual about sex. Bath, music, drugs, etc. I was told I didn’t last long enough and I should think about rebuilding a car engine!! Yeah, THAT’S romantic! No quickies EVER! Even excellent sex can get stressful and lose it’s appeal. When the appeal is gone it’s just a work out. Just saying.

In a similar situation. Hubby’s job is very demanding between 72 & 80hrs every week. We haven’t been married long at all. He comes home and plays his video game or just sits. It’s like his brain shuts down.. We finally got some communication going about the situation. I’m understanding better now, but still no sex. Good luck.

OK, so I’m on the opposite end. My wife is NOT giving it up to me. She was all about me eating at the “Y” but she wouldn’t give some. Sad so many men get home and rely on the damn computer games gfor entertainment!! Good luck!