Stop Telling People to Feel the Way They Do

 Listen up OD’ers and anyone else who see’s this entry!

Everyone has feelings and their feelings do matter.  There is a reason for why they feel this way and they do NOT have to justify it to anyone.

 Why? Because it is their feelings.  

We need to acknowledge that is how they feel.  Do not put them down for their feelings.  Do not try to fix their feelings unless they are asking for help.  Do not expect to be able to relate to their feelings.  

Why?  Because it is their feelings.

Writing down emotions and feelings is a healthy outlet.  Being able to vent how you feel even in poems that seem vague to others, is healthy expression to the author of the poem.  These are encourage outlets by therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists.  

We should encourage people, our friends and family to be able to have a safe place to express even those dark and angry emotions without, judgement or ridicule.  Do not expect to be invited into their private space online to view their posts or entries where such raw emotions are shared.  
 

If you are given the privilege and honor to view a person entries or posts where they share their emotions and feelings, and not just the happy and good ones, be respectful, supportive and don’t gossip behind their back.

Encourage and emphasize with your friends and family and others you see online and in your life.  Telling them how they should feel, or that you are tired of hearing how they feel, is WRONG!  Yes you are in the wrong and are a bad friend or family member.  You are causing more stress and pushing yourself away from that person.  You are doing more damage then help.  No matter how right you feel you are, you are WRONG!  Stop making excusing and justifying your actions and reasoning for being annoyed and thinking the person is to whiney or what not, YOU ARE IN THE WRONG!  

For once just stop and see how much more pain you have inflicted on this person.  If you cannot handle this persons pain, then quietly distance yourself.  No grandstanding, no declarations of, how tired of them you are and how you can come back to them, when they stop it.  

Why? Because a friend or family member doesn’t abandon someone in the bad times and then comeback when life is good.  Just think about that.  

People have a hard time seeing others struggle.  People don’t like hearing the negatives in life.  People see those hurting as failures and distance themselves.  We need to stop doing that.  We need to stop pushing advice on people.  We need to stop telling those who hurt to just stop feeling that way.

It’s time to emphasize, encourage and show some compassion.  If this is hard for you to do, it is time for you to learn.  Stop trying to push others to think and feel how you do.  No matter how well it works for you or not.  We are individuals and don’t all work the same way.  Plus we do not know everything that has happened or is happening in their life, nor do we need to know.

 No one needs to justify how they feel or explain or defend their feelings.  

Why?  Because it is HOW THEY FEEL!