NoJoMo #17 – not liking the challenge

The Challenge to write about the one that got away bothers me on so many different levels.  If we live a life of regret and always wondering what if and hang on to things from the past refusing to let go we never grow and learn what we can have.   Over time we glamorize the past and think things were better then they really were with someone or the possiblity of someone and never are satisfied with what we have or could have.

Sometimes we idealize someone so much and put them on this pedastool that is too high for anyone to reach or be compared too.  If we create unrealistic expectations and fantasize about what if missing the past you miss life.  You miss you on what is happening around you and opportunities you never expected.  It is like the Cinderella Syndrome so many women get trapped into.  Then we get what we think we wanted and are miserable.

No one is perfect and we need to learn what is truly important to us and what is something that isn’t a big issue.  There are happy successful relationships.  They do exist.  We don’t have to be lonely and dreaming of past regrets and possiblities.

Ok I think I have ranted enough on this topic.