drama/pics

so Saturday my Dad and I went to MTS to get me a new cell phone since my stopped working.  Anyway when we were in the mall who do we see Memory and Mike (shauns mom) so anyway we were ready to leave and the two of them are standing in front of Canadian Tire (we parked infront of Canadian tire) so to avoid them we hung a left, walked all the way to the other side of the mall, and walked through the parking lot to get to my car. … 

Later that ngiht who calls? 

Memory. 

anyway so we talked on the phone and she asked if she could come over and take the kids for a walk around MY block… (weird right?) I told her no because we were going to church and then the park. 

So she asked if she could swing by during the week int he vening. I told her its too hard on the kids, and they are on such a tight schedule due to daycare and me working. 

I told her the next two weekends were super busy (i did not mention the bday party since she is not invited… ) and told her the following weekend the kids were free. 

She then got all mad at me and told me i was "withholding" the children from her, and that it wasn’t right. How she missed the babies, and how everyone around her was having babies, and that she looks at their pictures everyday and that it wasn’t right that I was withholding her babies…. 

I told her that anytime she calls i make arrangements for her to have the children, and how dare her accuse me of withholding them.  She was like.. okay okay i’m going to let you go.. no apology no nothing.. ugh. 

So then she turns to mike and says"i’m not allowed to call her for two weeks"…. "why?" – Mike… "I don’t know"… 

are you kidding me! because we are BUSY! 

so anyway i wrote her a letter and this is EXACTLY what i wrote her. 

Memory 

I am beyond tired of all this drama. i am writing you this letter to explain how things are. 

I work two jobs Mon – Fri and only spend two hours (if that) with my kids. During the week does not work for making plans. They are on a tight schedule and when it is disrupted they are very cranky in teh morning and upset all day for daycare. 

I am not ready or comfortable with you picking up the kids from daycare. Sorry. Maybe int eh future but not now. 

Since I work Monday – Friday I usually plan something fun for the weekend. Not always but most weekends I do. 

If you call me and ask for the kids and only give me a day or twos notice odds are the answer will be a no. Please be aware of the fact that I make plans and we are busy. When you call please have a few dates in mind. 

if you get mad or accuse me of not being fair or withholding the kids form you the conversation is over. 

I have always tried my best to give you the kids. Latley i feel like if i’m busy i’m a bad person and when i try to compramise it is not good enough. I am done feeling this way so these are my rules please respect them. I will work with you if you can work with me. 

Rules

1. Mike must be present when you take care of the kids.

2. No during the week visits its too hard on the children (Monday – Thursday)

3. Please give me a week or two’s notice when asking for the kids

4. If your schedules are conflicting you are not to blame me or accuse me of anything

5. No smoking in front of the kids. 

 

that was my letter – I hand delivered it to her mailbox. 

 

we’ll see how this goes. if this goes badly i’m either done, or handing her a calendar with one day a month circled telling her that is her day. 

or i’ll just be done all together… apparently seh can’t fight me for grandparents rights those only exist when the parent is dead adn Shaun is alive… 

 

anyway 

MY LITTLE GIRL WILL BE ONE IN 12 DAYS!!! AHHHH

her birthday party is this saturday! i just finished filling all the babyfood jars with jelly bellys, i bough some stickers and candy necklaces as the good bag stuff… 

omg i’m soo excited! 

i bought her the cutest and classiest outfit! and an adorable Tiara… oh my.. 

here are some pics from the forks! 

Liam and uncle jesse 

awe my chub bub!!!! 

i’m thinking about joining a small group.. we’ll see… 

 

anyway i’m off

 

Chelsea