Happiness?

~Recently I’ve been thinking about the word happiness and what it really means to be happy…

~According to dictionary.reference.com happiness means the quality or state of being happy. Then then define happy as delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing. With this being said… you need to really understand what they other three words mean, delighted, pleased, glad… this could go on an on until you have pretty much wrapped yourself around all these different definitions of words that we all think we know the meaning of.

~I bring this up only because I was telling a friend the other day that all I want in life is to be happy and right now I am not happy with life. She went on to say that happiness is a choice.

~On this note I would like to make a few opinions. You may or may not agree with my thinking but this is how I feel…

~Is happiness always a choice? If happiness seriously is a choice, wouldn’t we all be happy all the time? There would be no complaining, no crying, no bitching, no sorrow, no pain… If happiness is a choice then we would never ever choose to feel those things. Also then everything would just work out perfectly in which we would make sure we would always get what we wanted. Also who would ever choose to feel pain, or sorrow? No one. Yet we all still experience these feelings all the time. So in these moments are we just supposed to pretend that we are happy and ignore how we really feel about these situations? I don’t believe so. Pretending is no way to go about life. If we never express what we are truly feeling then these feelings build up and they will eventually explode into something even worse if not dealt with right away… I speak from experience on that one, hence why I tend to let people know how I feel in each and every moment of my life. No sense in hiding, when that’s not really me.

~I think that happiness is something that happens to those who are not able to really handle too many struggles in life. These are the weak among us. If they were not happy, then they would probably kill themselves. Us strong ones on the other hand, we can handle the struggles so they keep coming our ways. Sure we get some happy times here and there, but more so than not, we have our struggles and that’s what accompanies us throughout the day. Sometimes I wish that I was one of those weak people out there. That way I could just be happy and not deal with all the struggles within my life. But that’s not the way life is. I cannot change who I am, though some days I wish that I could.

~Overall, is happiness a choice… I’m not sold on the idea. I do think that we should make the best of all the situations we are handed in life but I don’t really believe that happiness is a full on choice. Like I stated before, no one ever chooses to be unhappy, that’s just ridiculous…