Reply to the long note at bottom of last entry

You look, I don’t expect you to understand being that you are only 19. I am not going to sit here and give you details to everything, it’s none of your business. What you read isn’t always the way it is and that’s what we are trying to tell you. Encouragement is a great thing when it’s done the right way, don’t you get that???

And no one is blaming you for her decisions, AGAIN, all we asked for was some cooperation if you are going to continue writing on her diary. And she gets plenty of support thank you, just not the kind that encourages certain things. She needs to discover that life is full of opportunity. We know what we are dealing with you don’t.

If she wasn’t getting support then why would we be taking the time to do any of this… Have you thought about that in a logical way?? Or is that you really just don’t want to be told what to do?? Whether you see problems or not is not the point. Like we have been telling you, you don’t know her, you don’t know the entirety of any of it.

If you want to encourage her in a way that will help her then that is great. We have asked nicely, that’s all the information you are going to get. We want her to have her space but we want her to deal with reality and see life from a better perspective, a positive one. You don’t know the real issues at hand and we are not going to put them out there for people to judge.

She has made some decisions and acted in ways that are destructive for her future. She now sees everything in a ways of a negative nature and that needs to get turned back around. We ask that you don’t baby her, give her support that will open up her heart instead of keeping it closed. She has become very bitter and angry inside.

She has a lot on her plate and instead of dealing with it and letting it go she holds onto it and has learned to manipulate situations and in the long run it’s going to come back on her…we don’t want that!!!!!!!!!!! She has to learn how to cope with things, especially now that she is going to be a mother.

We know how she makes thing appear and that’s the point. Her life is not bad, it’s how she chooses to see it. Life is what we make it and she needs to understand that. We are trying to make her see that and are only asking you to encourage the same and really think about what you write before you write, just make sure that it is not encouraging her to stay so negative

She is responsible for her own choices and she needs to take responsibiliy for them. She made some bad ones and instead of dealing with them she tries to blame other people for them, no one did these things to her, she did them herself and you need to understand that. PLEASE – PLEASE try to understand that we only want what is best for her.

She has done some very hurtful things, we understand that she has issues that she needs help with and that’s what we are trying to do. But we want her to learn better ways of coping. You want to help her, encourage her, great, just do it responsibly.

We also ask that you make her feel bad by telling her that we have been talking to you. We are not trying to betray her in any way, we are trying to do what is best for her but she will use it and say that she has been betrayed and turned against. Not true, not at all. You have to know everything to completely understand and we won’t talk about her issues with anyone.

We are not blaming you, not attacking you in any way. We have just told you all that you need to know and simply asked that you watch the way you try to encourage her, that’s it. You don’t need to attack us, she is very supported. It’s frustrating that all we did was ask you to be careful and you turned this into a power plaly.

You seem like a caring person and we thought that maybe you would be more understanding. All we were doing was trying to tell you what we could and show you the ways that we would like to see her be encouraged.