541 – Honestly . . .

Revolution
By:
The Beatles

You say you want a revolution
Well you know
We all want to change the world
You tell me that it’s evolution
Well you know
We all want to change the world
But when you talk about destruction
Don’t you know that you can count me out

Don’t you know it’s gonna be alright
Alright Alright

You say you got a real solution
Well you know
We’d all love to see the plan
You ask me for a contribution
Well you know
We’re doing what we can
But when you want money for people with minds that hate
All I can tell you is brother you have to wait

Don’t you know it’s gonna be alright
Alright Alright

You say you’ll change the constitution
Well you know
We all want to change your head
You tell me it’s the institution
Well you know
You better free your mind instead
But if you go carrying pictures of Chairman Mao
You ain’t going to make it with anyone anyhow

Don’t you know know it’s gonna be alright
Alright Alright

I was thinking over Jill’s paragraph to me last night, after I left her my notes in regards to it.  And I wonder.  What the Hell makes someone think “if you’re a real friend, you’ll just automatically accept that I’m making the proper decisions and be happy for me.”???  I mean, where is it said that friends have to accept everything that someone else does and be happy about it?  Not only is that a dumb and frankly, cowardly approach to friendship, but it’s not true.

As an extremist, I’ll use an extreme example.  You’re friends with someone, and they start drinking.  When confronted, they give you that line of “it’s my decision, you should just accept it and be happy.”  And someone should listen to that load of BS?  NO!!!

Now, true, this isn’t the same thing.  But the fact remains that neither is a case where I would just sit back and say, “Okay, it’s your life, I’ll be happy regardless of what you choose.”  Because it doesn’t work that way.

I say it’s a cowardly approach, because all it does is duck behind a line that would make most people back off, and decide, “Yeah, it is your life,” and just seeth in the background if they still weren’t happy about the decisions being made.  Well, I’m not going to seeth in the background anymore.  I did that enough when I was a kid, and it’s stupid to do.

I’m not going to write any opinion about her decisions here.  Frankly, I wasn’t too fond of the fact that she couldn’t private note me back with that paragraph to me.  This is not something that needed to be public.  But I’ve said what I needed to say, and the point of this entry, besides stating my view on that statement, is to say:

Jill, no, I don’t have to automatically accept, nor be happy about your decision.  And, frankly, I’m not happy about, nor accepting of what you’ve decided.  But, yes.  It is your life, and in the long run, my happiness and acceptance over these decisions probably won’t effect you at all.  But just know that just because I am your friend does not mean that I’m just going to arbitrarily be happy for you.  Everything else I could say, I already covered in my notes.