It’s Only Love
Ah, yes, the great mystery of life, called the Male Gender.
Well, the problem seems to be that this girl likes this guy, but is shy about telling him. Plus, for watever reason, his parents don’t want him to date until he’s sixteen.
Personally, I’ve never understood why parents would put an age restriction on dating. Okay, granted, you’re not gonna let ten-year-olds go to the movies alone together, but I also seriously doubt I’m writing about ten-year-olds. But as far as an age restriction goes, all it does is encourage teenagers to come up with more creative wasy of getting around their parents rules. Never a good idea, especially if you get caught, but why do the parents put the temptation there in the first place?
Okay, sorry. Going on rant about parents. As far as how to tell this guy that you like him, as I saidin another entry, writing a note is always a good idea, as long as you’re there to watch him read it. Notes can go over badly if you do a telephone line thing to get it to him. You know, giving it to a friend, who’ll pass it to one of his friends, who’s supposed to give it to him. That can go haywire, especially if the people who are passing the note along are not the most mature bunch. It’s better, if you can’t tell him directly, to tell him in a note that you give directly to him. It can be, and probably will be extremely nerve-wracking, but just make sure you have a wall to lean on. I wrote a note to Ryan telling him I liked him, and my knees were shaking so hard that I was glad I had a wall to lean on. If I hadn’t, I probably would’ve fallen over.
Like I said, I don’t think there are any definite ways to tell if a guy likes you except for asking him. It’s nerve-wracking, and you’ll be hurt for awhile if he doesn’t reciprocate, but that’s something else I’ve learned. If you like a guy, but he only sees you as a friend, don’t get so caught up in being in love with him that you miss out on the terrific friend he can be. If he sticks with you and continues talking to you even after he knows that you like him, you’ve got something really special there. Even if it never develops into something more, even if he talks to you about other girls, and it drives you up the wall, enjoy his friendship, because that bond is something real. Maybe not the kidn of bond you were hoping for, but a real, genuine bond, nonetheless.
I hope this has helped, and while I don’t mind writing entries on guys, and will write more if need be, does anyone have any other questions they want advice on?
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ok my parents put the dating rule at 16 so im dating J.T. without my parents knowing because i really like J.T. [thunderlightening]
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Ryn: Yeah, I got your question. Just been busy with some many other peoples’ problems on top of my own. Anyway, to answer your question… it could be because you let negativity have more of an effect on you than positivity, so you feel a greater need to express that. Writing when you’re insecure actually helps you diminish the insecurity and can help boost your mood to make your way towards [Caring Advice]
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feeling secure again. So, those could be reasons why you’re driven more to write when feeling down. It’s normal for pain or insecurity to be one of the main inspirations to a writer. In order to change that, it’s just one of those things that takes practice. Practice writing more when you’re happy and uplifted. It might take a practice of also not dwelling so much of things you’re insecure about. [Caring Advice]
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If you want me to go into more detail, let me know. 🙂 [Caring Advice]
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That entry made me smile lots. I feel so much better about Bevan (all in my diary). We’re best friends, so I really hope we don’t lose that. Thanks! 🙂 [Yorkshire Lass]