3/11/08

I’m having a baby shower! Please visit:

http://www.webbabyshower.com/mullen/

There was a problem with the agreement from the bank for reinstating the house, so Jerry did not get the funds off.  He called the bank and got it straightened out, so he’ll be sending the money off today, as soon as we go to the bank, as some of the money for the reinstatement got spent on other things, so now we need to get the cash to make the amount right again.  Plus, I’ve got to add Jerry onto the account.  Not having one or the other of us on any given account can make banking QUITE a PITA.  We learned that a few years ago when I was not on the Freedom Solutions account, and he and Brian both left for a conference in Florida, and we had a house we’d bought that needed to be reinstated to keep it from going to auction.  Oh, THAT was fun… NOT.  Jerry had to do all kinds of finagling for me to be able to get the money.  Plus, it was just a day to day pain that HE had to go to the bank (since Brian was a lazy ass) and couldn’t send me to do the banking.  Oh, it was a double edged sword for me when I got added to that account finally, lol… it just meant more work for me, really ;).  I despise waiting in lines for the most part, even if it’s for something fun like getting pictures with a Disney character.  But what can you do?  At least when you’re a business, you can go the shorter (though not as well staffed!) business line(s).  I got to where I just hated bankers, I was always dealing with them on the phone as part of my job, and was dealing with them in person as part of the business.  I felt like I was ALWAYS talking to a banker, and they can be the MOST uncooperative bunch of a$$holes you ever want to meet…. ESPECIALLY if they’re from India-don’t get me started!  I think one of the WORST things ever to happen to customer support is that they outsourced it to a bunch of stiff-necked, don’t understand the nuances of the AMERICAN English language, uncooperative Indian MEN!!!!!  I’ve never had such negative customer experiences in my LIFE.  I’ve had maybe one or two good experiences with these people.  And before someone accuses me of being racist…remember that at one point, I had THREE boyfriends who were Indian, and one other man I went on one date with, and that was an interesting, positive experience.  But they do tend to be somewhat inflexible.  I learned a lot about India though.  The one date guy, he was CATHOLIC… our date was Mass on Palm Sunday.  NO KIDDING.  And his name, his GIVEN name, was Christopher Wolf.  Another guy I went out with when I first got here, his name was Kishor, but he went by Kevin, which was totally because he thought it got him more money in his engineering jobs if he had a more "American" name… and he was COMPLETELY obsessed with his nuts.  Seriously!  They were larger than average, I have to admit.  LOL… he was something else.  He was pretty self absorbed.  He was pressing me to marry him really quickly, and didn’t want me to work… and I just couldn’t do any of it.  I didn’t really want to be his little wifely "love slave" which is what he seemed to want, and LATER, he tells me he had a wife, she left him, and since he didn’t know where she was, he couldn’t divorce her!  Man, oh man.  So no, I’m not a racist, but I’ll bet I have a better idea of what Indian men are like than the average American female.  I think culturally speaking, they do tend towards self-absorption.  The funny thing to me was, I was dating 3 guys at once, right?  Two Indian men, and one Pakistani man whom I REALLY wanted to marry, and they all knew I was dating other guys, and they seemed to get OFF on it!  They got a KICK out of the fact that I was dating the three of them at once.  I wasn’t going to make a secret of it, so I told them all.  And none of them, not one guy, seemed to mind or care.  One told me the Pakistani fellow was still looking for women, and I told him it wasn’t like we had an exclusive relationship, he could do what he wanted.  I knew I couldn’t marry him, even though I really liked everything about him.  We even talked about it, and he had no intention of marrying an American woman.  Okay… fine, we have an understanding.  I won’t pretend it didn’t hurt… I really felt in love with the guy.  He was well read, he would spend his summers reading everything he could get his hands on, or watching every movie ever recommended to him.  He was open, funny, fun to talk to, affectionate, generous, caring, adventurous, and in general a really great guy.  He didn’t suffer from that reservation the Indian guys seemed to have.  My mom warned me though, that Middle Eastern men, treat their girlfriends a LOT better than they treat their wives, so that gave me pause.  And he himself told me that if he were to marry an American, he would feel he couldn’t go home to Pakistan, because the environment is so different, he could not do that to her (take her to Pakistan), but nor did he want to close himself off from being able to go back.  I think maybe he saw American women as another adventure (probably a sexual one!), and then he’d marry a "good Pakistani woman" that his mother would approve of.  I don’t know whatever happened to him, because I was really forced to cut ties with him after I met Jerry.  My emotions were too invested to do otherwise.  I called that whole 6 month period from when I got to Sacramento, til I finally met Jerry, my "slut period"  which Jerry HATES… OMG… of course he hates it, he’s jealous of it.  He pretty much wishes HE could have (had) a slut period ;).  What was rather ironic to me, after all of that, because I didn’t just date the Indian men and the Pakistani…they were who I saw regularly, but I also went on single dates with all KINDS of guys, white, black, Hispanic, Asian… I wanted an adventure in dating, lol.  so the irony of course, is that I ended up with a white guy… all of one year older than me, lol.  I mean, we grew up in different ares of the country, but we had so many similar kinds of experiences growing up.  I suppose it’s only natural that we’d get together, we’re NOT opposites by any stretch.  We’re very similar, Jerry and I.  We are both family oriented, we both break out into song if a particular phrase is mentioned that goes to a song (sometimes we come up with different songs, but we BOTH will come up with some song that goes with a phrase.  And we both did that before we met each other, and have just gotten worse with knowing each other, lol!), we both are easy going.  He’s more take charge than I am… however, I LIKE being able to take a back seat to him and his decisions.   When push comes to shove, I can take the reins when necessary, and I’ve never met a man who loves it so much when I do, as he does.  He WANTS me to put myself in the forefront and be "out there"   We both have similar risk taking attitudes, which actually, I am only willing to take now because I trust HIM.   In other words, I’ve become more that way, though I’ve always enjoyed doing things that had calculated risks, like the "candy store" my best friend and I had when we were 13 or 14 in junior high.  Or when Gregg and I had a booth in a flea market (God that was fun!  I think I’d do that again, given the chance… though OWNING the flea market would be much more profitable, lol!)  When Jerry wanted to do Freedom Solutions full time, it gave me pause… do we risk it all on this business?  In the end, it was a no brainer, and we of course, did well at it.  We are also both adventurous, him more so than me, but I can usually be "dragged" into just about anything!  And I have fun, so who’s complaining?  Of course, for him the best adventure is one than involves sex or nudity…. which is ALL I will say about that!  I’m not always "into" that.

Okay, we gotta go to the bank… and we’ve got to do it now, because the girls will be home in less than an hour.  I don’t think I’m going to get a nap in today… darn it, grrr.

I’m going to have to get my head into card making.  Sydni wants to start a business (kid after my own heart I think) and I have offered up my scraps, and I think it’s something I ought to help her with at least at first, so she can get a good idea of how things should look to be able to sell.

Anyway, gotta go.