baked beans smile

We were lingering at Scott’s cousins’ house after a baptism. I had just loaded up my plate with more baked beans to find the cousins’ primary president chatting with Scott. As I sat down, she asked if we had any kids.

It’s at times like this that I go silent, waiting for Scott to answer. It’s rude, I know. But it’s not like that falls under the category of the most polite question to ask. Really. If we had kids, do you think we’d have just left them home for the whole night alone? I guess we could have gotten a babysitter for a date night… but it’s a FAMILY BAPTISM. Who would really get a babysitter for that?

So, Scott looks at the still-silent Kella, and catches the sassy smile I’m giving the dinner plate. Something about the situation always amuses both of us, and he smirks. “Not yet.” I can hear the subdued laugh in his voice, so I give him a bigger version of the baked beans smile.

“Oh, I get it,” she says, “It’s her choice, huh?”

I’m reminded of the time when Lolly and I were still trying, and we were at a family thing, and my second cousin who got married after us was talking about how they were pregnant with child number two. He looked at us and said, “hey. I think it’s time for you guys to get on the ball and have kids now.” We both just laughed, and I said….

“If us having kids is that important to you, perhaps you should take it up with the Lord. Cuz we’ve been trying, and nothing’s been happening.” I think he felt bad. But, the good news is that, apparently, he did so. Good thing other people are around to intervene in our behalfs on such matters! We miss you guys. J&L

Fall Girl

January 22, 2007

Ooooh, I would have punched that beeyotch in the neck.

Blue_Patch

January 23, 2007

I keep harboring this irrational fear that you’re going to be / are mad at me. It’s not like I did it on purpose.

ElvenWarriorPrincess

January 24, 2007

I hate it when I get asked that, particularly in Utah — because I’ve been married for two years and we DON’T have kids, some people actually look down on us and try to preach that we should have kids, and I’m thinking, “Hey, mind your own business! When we have kids is OUR concern, and we’ll have them when the time is right!” Sorry, mini-rant over. 😉

jerseycorazon

January 25, 2007

Oh, what a rude person!! I constantly pray for you and Scotty. Hope you have a wonderful weekend. I love you!

catilina

January 30, 2007

I always hated when people would ask us when we were going to have kids, or worse WHY we didn’t have any yet. What insensitive, rude, inconsiderate, NOSEY things to ask! The best response I heard given to one of those was “well it’s not for lack of trying.” Shut the busybody right up. Hang in there sweets. (btw, I love it when you (occasionally) write. I miss you.)

Um, the book you did was beautiful. Seriously. Josh