“THE talk with Memaw”

Last night, Mama and her brother Roy, who has power of attorney over Memaw, had THE talk with Memaw.  You know which one, don’t you?  The one where they mention that maybe she needs to be somewhere where they can help her more than Mama can.
Apparently, from what Mama says, it went something like this :

Roy : Mama, I understand you’ve had some difficulties lately.
Memaw : Yeah.  I have difficulties.
Roy : Do you think it might be a good idea if you go stay someplace where there will be nurses and doctors who can help you if you need them?  Someplace like Daddy was in?
Memaw : I think it might be the time for that.
(Memaw looks at MY Mama, her youngest daughter)
Suzi, you’re ruining your health trying to take care of everybody.
(Mama starts to cry)

So the matter is settled, and I tell you, I am so proud of My Memaw!!!!!!  She handled this matter with dignity, and I am so very proud to be her grandson.  May I handle life’s troubles the way she is.  I praise the Lord that it wasn’t a struggle, and that my sweet little white-haired grandmother agreed, in order to spare her daughter more pain.  She’s so far gone, but she STILL thinks about Mama, and I am so grateful and proud as all hell!!!!!

As for Nanny….
I had decided yesterday…well, WE decided, all of us and Mikey, that I would not visit Nanny anymore.  It’s not that easy, though.  I cannot bring myself to desert my own grandmother.  She is Daddy’s Mama, and she needs me, in some strange way.  Even if she only needs me as her whipping boy, she still needs me, and she doesn’t have anyone else to fill those shoes right now.  I love Nanny, and I will do my best to bite my pride down and keep seeing her each weekday at lunch.  At least, until Memaw is in the home.  Then, Mikey and I are going to visit Memaw for lunch.

Much love and a few more tears,

Betty Louise

p.s.  They’re good tears, because it all worked out so well.
B