Bombs Falling
I found out tonight that some good friends of mine are getting a divorce. It’s something that I know has been teetering for several months now, and it’s really hurt me to watch the husband go through the same stuff I went through a year and a half ago. From the things he’s told me, there are so many things the wife has done that reminded me of things Tina did when she went off the deep end. It’s been a hard thing to behold.
It ended tonight, and I went over to see him and offer comfort. I realize that one thing I got off lucky on was the fact that Tina and I don’t have any kids to tell that things went south. He has two kids from a previous marriage and one with her. He told the two kids tonight (both teenagers) while I was there. It broke my heart to see the pain and anguish on their faces. My heart hurts even more for their youngest daughter, who was sleeping at the time, who will find out tomorrow that their parents won’t be together anymore.
What sucks even worse is that this was a couple that was very strong in their marriage. The kind you would want to base your marriage on. In the end, I guess, we all fall short.
I ask prayers for them and their children, for those of you who pray. Prayers of peace, healing, and resolution.
OUCH!!!! Divorce is UNBELIEVABLY painful. RYN- no, he can’t even do deskwork. Sitting down for any period of time causes him spasms and pain. Physical work puts him in bed for two days. Poor baby can’t win.
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Have they went to counseling??
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Aww, that really sucks…
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ryn: What was it like? Did she get to have contact wiht ppl outside the facility? Internet access, phones, a way to keep in touch with friends and family, or is it completely cutting you off to focus on your ‘treatment’? Could she check herself out and leave if she decided she was ready to leave or didnt want to stay anymore? Or was she stuck there until they agreed she was able to be let out? Did
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they MAKE her take meds? How long was the tretment? 3 months? 6? Or until you decided to leave or they cleared you to leave? Do they have things like a gym, so I could stay active and fit? Or is it like a straight up mental institution like you see in the movies, where ppl just sit around doing nothing all day and have 1 therapy session a day. Where nurses MAKE you take your pills and have bedtime
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at 9pm? Isnt it a like a boot camp? Where there are strict rules and things you have to do?
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Are you allowed to wear your own clothes, make up, do your hair etc? Or do you have assigned scrubs that the patients wear? No make up and no hair straightenors or curling irons?? No way to make yourself look presentable?
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ryn: Thankx for the answeres. Did Tina really benefit from it? Did it help her or change her and make her feel better about herself? Did it at least imporive her feelings? Or is she the same as before she went in? If therapy or a mental facility didnt help her much, what was it that helped her move forward from her issues? I have been on meds before and I personally feel like they are just a
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temporary fix, like a band aide. They also made me feel numb and I didnt have any mptivation or caring in doing anything. I went to work and then came home and did literally absolutley nothing but sit around. I never was motivated to do anything, sure I Wasnt depressed like I had been, but all my energry and motivation was sucked up dry. I just dont think that a pill is going to make me like
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myself, or fix my eating disorders or self hatred. Those things stem way too deep for any pill to fix. Does that make sense?
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ryn~ it’ll be a long time before i get to leave tulsa and we’ll definitely meet up before then!
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Not fun. <–Understatement. I remember being a kid and being terrified whenever I’d hear my parents argue that they would get divorced. My prayers go out for them.
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