NylahKay

September 28, 2008

Previous: face to face with a murderer

update and return

i am staging my return to OD.

but FIRST, you must leave me a note and let me know if you are interested in staying on my favorite’s list. i think i will be faves only for a while upon my return.

those that i don’t hear from i will assume aren’t interested.

i should be back in a few days.

thanks to those of you that expressed concern and offered advice after yesterday’s break down.

the good news is, when two people actually make a concerted effort to listen to each other, they are suddenly able to be empathetic to one another.

after i was done hyperventilating, driving for no reason with no destination, screaming so loud in my car to myself that i threw up, and feeling sorry for myself, i came back home.

and went about my night.

and he asked if i wanted to talk.

so we did.

and he listened.

and when i was done he blinked his eyes and said "i had no idea i made you feel that way…"

i cried.

in a good way.

because he finally acknowledged his wrongdoing and respected my feelings.

and listened.

and didn’t try to justify.

and then he got genuinely sad because he made me feel that way.

and i got genuinely happy that he was genuinely capable of those feelings.

and i told him that if he made the same mistake he made yesterday a hundred times, but was capable of acknowledging his errors or more importantly acknowledging the impact it has on me emotionally, i would whether the storms until he got it right.

this is all new to him, he said.

having to deal with a woman that knows something.

he was in a coma for seven years with Lyndsey.

it’s time to wake the fuck up.

Johnny Jets

September 29, 2008

It’s good that you got to talk and it seems to have been a productive talk. I’m here and want to stay.

x_x

Shissou

🙂 🙂 Keep me please.

Carousel

Ah well I am very new but I am definitely interested in reading future updates! I am glad things went better today with Chewie 🙂

Duchess

*hugs* I’m glad you are feeling better…*hugs* (and yes I want to stay on your favorites list 😀

Good, I am glad you got through to him. 🙂 Love ya sis, and I def. want to be on the faves.

Last_Stash

Sometimes the most wonderful thing a spouse can do is as if you want to talk. people are rarely looking for perfection so much as an effort. I’m so happy you got it.

J!LL

I still read all of your entries, so I hope I can keep reading in the future. 🙂

ThomaS

September 30, 2008

Lovely Blue eyes, I’m a keeper.

Well it’s really up to you if i stay or go. I have to admit i hardly comment and i wish i could help you like you help me, but in reality that isn’t the case. I try to give you words of comfort when i can, but you give me strength, a good dose of common scense and a smile when i need them. You don’t even know it. I hope things get better for you. I have a lot of faith that they will.

Anxious

well you know i read. and damnit woman, with gas prices the way they are, why the hell are you driving around aimlessly. we live next to the airport, and i just drive over to the parking area and watch flights take off and land when we get to arguing. come to find out, he does the same thing. 🙂

Ms TT

[jumping up and down, waving arms frantically] Keep Me! Keep Me! 🙂 Glad you’re coming back. This place is not the same without you. Glad you and Chewie got this straightened out. Big Welcome Back HUGS!

**Nomad**

See, I knew this. Not that you would be able to talk it our so soon, but that his ofense was not so much instinctual as just ignorant (I mean that in the least offensive way possible). I was going to tell you so today, but since you guys found it out on your own, I’ll skip the whole explanation of it. I’m just glad it worked out, and that you’ll keep working it out. And I’d BETTER still be on your

list when you go faves only, or, baby, you know you’ll be on my list! Love ya, sweetheart.

Idiotgirl

It’s always good when you can have one of those talks… Keep me on your list!

midnight muse

I would be honored if you kept me as a favorite of yours. I am so pleased you talked. That alone is the biggest first step to solutions.

Cairdeas

i’m glad you guys got to talk it out. that’s very positive. and yes, i’d like to continue reading, too.

Miapaws

Interested….busy…but still interested! Glad you talked things out… :))

shroomi

I hope everything will be better for you two now. I would like to still be in your favourites, if that’s okay 🙂

Well you know I want to keep reading, but if you don’t want me to, I understand…Glad to hear he’s coming around!

you know about my horrible Jess-be-gone syndrome. I would like to stay. =] and i’m mglad things worked out. I really, really am.

Mrs. Gregory

I’m glad you’re back, and it’s good that you had a breakthrough talk with Chewie!

Mns

October 1, 2008

yes. please 🙂

Victim of Changes

October 8, 2008

I’m glad things went so well when you finally talked. And yes – I’d like to stay on your Faves List. 🙂