picking your anniversary is not that easy
My cousin who’s upset with me got her ring last night, so her search is officially on.
And my dilemma over dates continues.
You see, I honestly don’t even like June 9th. It’s too close to Bill’s birthday (June 24th). I am someone who tries to put a lot of thought and effort into celebration gifts for my significant other (not many other people, just him), and I know I won’t like our anniversary and his birthday being 15 days apart. I just won’t.
On top of that, if Lane picks June 2nd or June 16th, then one of us would be on our honeymoon the weekend that the other gets married. And we just can’t have that.
And there are already so many other weddings that are now going to happen around the same time next year (though none of us have officially picked dates yet). Zach (Bill’s roomate from NC), Amy (Scott’s sister, close family friend), Lane, Noah (Bill’s old college roommate), and us. Then there are at least two other couples I’m expecting to get engaged soon, potentially three. Geezus.
But onto the dates we’re looking at and all of the issues with them. This is more so that I can wrap my head around the pros/cons than for you guys, but feel free to comment if you have a suggestion/opinion!
First, we have a weather analysis of the top four dates.
3/24
Pros:
Would go PERFECTLY with our birthdays + Christmas to give us one celebration every three months (3/24, 6/24, 9/25, 12/25).
Early in the year and hey, the sooner the better, right?
Cons:
Early enough in the year that it might still be cold out.
Bridesmaids who have to deal with school calendar.
May conflict with Zach’s wedding date.
3/31
Pros:
Would go well with our birthdays + Christmas to give us one celebration every three months (3/31, 6/24, 9/25, 12/25).
Early in the year and hey, the sooner the better, right?
Cons:
Early enough in the year that it might still be cold out.
Bridesmaids who have to deal with school calendar.
May conflict with Zach’s wedding date.
4/7
Pros:
The wedding planner can be there.
Earlier in the year than June.
Cons:
The day before Easter – affects people traveling and the option to have a brunch the day after.
Early enough in the year that it might still be cold out.
Bridesmaids who have to deal with school calendar.
4/14
Pros:
Earlier in the year than June.
Not "Lane’s date."
Doesn’t conflict with anyone else’s wedding (so far).
Cons:
Bridesmaids who have to deal with school calendar.
Worse than March dates for Katie, specifically.
Sue and Kathy wouldn’t be able to make their annual Myrtle Beach trip.
The wedding planner can NOT be there.
5/5
Pros:
Good time of year for weather, not too early and not too late.
Cons:
Might end up being Race Weekend in Richmond (horrific for travelers).
The wedding planner can NOT be there.
5/12
Pros:
Late enough in the year that it’ll probably be warm.
The wedding planner can be there.
Cons:
Might end up being Race Weekend in Richmond (horrific for travelers).
6/2
Pros:
Most (maybe all) of my bridesmaids who have a school calendar will be finished with school.
Late enough in the year that it’ll definitely be warm.
Not "Lane’s date."
Cons:
Lane could take 6/2 and miss my wedding or take 6/16 and we miss her wedding.
The wedding planner can NOT be there.
6/9
Pros:
The wedding planner can be there.
Late enough in the year that it’ll definitely be warm.
Cons:
Too close to Bill’s birthday. This may seem minor to you, but I really don’t like it.
It’s "Lane’s Date."
Lane could take 6/2 and miss my wedding or take 6/16 and we miss her wedding.
Wow, that is a ton of pros and cons to everything!! That’s part of why us planning only 3 months out was great. Because we didn’t have to worry too much, we just chose a date and said too bad so sad about everything else!
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only you would have a graph of rain percentages. haha Its good luck to rain on your wedding day! It started raining when I walked down the aisle and rained the whole time we were getting married. It was romantic under the tent with the rain 🙂 Then it stopped when the ceremony was over and the sun came back out for the rest of the day. I think it was my grandparents stopping by to see meget married. I think you should just pick a date that works for you and bill and forget everything else. There’s always going to be conflicts and you can’t please everyone. if someone wants to be at your wedding then they will if possible. Don’t bend over backwards to accomodate everyone else, you know?
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Hmm, that’s tough. Our anniversary is exactly a week before my birthday. We decided not to exchange gifts for our anniversaries, though. We celebrate together, like a nice dinner and a movie or something, or we’ll buy something for ourselves together, like a fancy appliance we’ve both been wanting. (Our anniversary is 3/25, btw.)
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…Oh yeah, and my husband actually remembers when our anniversary is (he’s horrible at remembering dates) since it’s exactly a week before my birthday (and my bday is April Fools’ Day). Also, we had an outdoor ceremony, so it was important to have decent weather (which meant March in Florida, so it wasn’t too hot and sticky).
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Why not in the fall? October? I love October weddings, and yes.. I might be biased. 🙂
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I agree with [perfunctory] with my question of why it can’t be later in the year. September, October? That’s when I would like to be married. Also, please don’t take offense to this but it seems to me that you are worrying WAY TOO MUCH about other people’s schedules when deciding a date. This day is supposed to be about you and Bill; not everyone else dear.
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Yeh, who would think picking a date is so hard? I ran into a small issue like this when planning my wedding… a girl I graduated with wanted to pick the same date. We weren’t super-close friends, but we wanted to invite a lot of the same people. We eventually settled on the same date, but she got married in the morning and I got married in the afternoon. I hope you can find a solution soon. *hugs*
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Who knew picking a date would be so hard!
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I’m impressed with your thought process on this! We literally looked at a date and said, “um, how about June 25?” I like May dates… it’s really pretty then! 🙂
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I think you’re considering people’s schedules too much. That shows that you’re very considerate, but I think this is a time when you’re allowed to be a little selfish and think about yourself. If you don’t want the date to be too close to Bill’s bday, then consider that, but don’t worry about people’s vacations, etc. It’s a once in a lifetime event! They’ll get over rescheduling those things.
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I have to agree with illustrious here – this is about you guys. So some people are going to have to reschedule some things. Personally, I’d be fine organising a day off from work/school for a friend’s wedding. And if you set your date, and someone else chooses one too close to it, it’s really not your problem. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, you’re doing a wonderful job of trying to make everyonehappy, but it’s about you and Bill, not everyone else. 🙂
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