I can’t choose my family, but I can my friends
If you’ve already seen today’s antics on facebook, then you shouldn’t have to read this. I’m only writing it down because I want to write it before I go to work so I don’t have to relive it after all over again. Ergh. My father has struck once again.
It all started this morning, when, predicitively, I get this private facebook message from him…(regarding my post in the previous entry)
You can see my response underneath. "Something about this photo" that bothers him? Like, who the fuck even talks like that??
Sorry, I’m very angry.
A little while later, I get a message from my mother.
Which I was crying. How SWEET was it to say she’d choose church over me? Man, that’s huge for her to say.
I got a response to my response to dad later on…
Yes, I swore at my father. Christ.
I shared the post to facebook. It’s gotten to the point where I have no issue shaming my father for his complete fucking ignorance. I came out almost 11 fucking years ago, and he has made NO progress at all. He’s more stubborn than a bull facing a brick wall. His brain is brainwashed with bible and selective homophobic verses he chooses to see.
Right now, he can get fucked.
I love him, but right now, he can get FUCKED.
Later on, I was also VERY surprised to get an ulta-rare message from my ex-sister-in-law.
I was stunned! I too thought that party was boring as bat-shit lol, and I had no idea I was being entertaining whatsoever lol.
Anyway, I’m off to work to take my mind off of this crap for a few hours. I can’t choose my family but I’m glad I can choose my friends.
Holy shit, Matt. I’m so, so sorry. You don’t deserve that shit. No one does. I’ve got to admit, I feel sorry for your dad. What a sad little world he must live in. :/
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I love your guts and I am proud of you xx
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So shit you have to deal with this crap.
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Matt, I am so unbelievably proud of you for standing up to your dad. He probably never saw it coming and you gave him something to think about. You mom seems very respectful and sweet and its nice that at least both parents do not have that negative attitude. Good for you!
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I am SO GLAD your mother wrote you what she did!!!!! I hope she brings up Luke when she dukes it out with your father. People HAVE to realize that life is too short and precious to hold things against other people, especially those we love. I assume Brendan is your brother? Funny…they fight for the one who seems a deadbeat, but not for the one who, if HE had the kids (you), would be a great dad!
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Whoops. Brenden, not Brendan.
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Sorry to hear about all this Matty, you deserve so much better than that from your family. If it was me I would have shamed him out on facebook too. Whatever happened to a parents unconditional love? *hugs*
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The struggle is real because your mother is struggling against her programming. Your father isn’t struggling at all and look how much progress he’s made.
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Your mom’s remark made me tear up for you… I’m so happy for you that she wrote that. And my first thought when I saw your post on Facebook about your dad was “go you!” for telling him off. I cannot understand homophobes. I also cannot understand how a parent can think anything but great things about their children. I’m not a parent yet, but I like to think that they could come to me with anything and I’d accept them for who they are… You deserve better than what your dad gives you. (((hugs)))
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Good for you for standing up. Your mum’s all right, but you shouldn’t have to expose yourself to your dad’s bigotry just because you’re family. I hope your mum gives him an earful–coming from her, he might actually have to think it through instead of retreating behind “God said.” Because He didn’t.
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sailor moon is freakin awesome 😀 look for the ones with the stars next to them. they are the best quality that i’ve found. i’ve copped similar shit from my parents. it sucks. from what i know of you is pretty awesome. no one on my facebook shared that petition and if they did i would have unfriended them straight away. keep being lovely and awesome 🙂
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This is just so awful 🙁 You don’t deserve this.
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