The 19 people I have decided to cut out of my life.
It was a wonderful day not touching my phone. It was a smart plan to unplug from the drama, and as it turned out, I got a lot accomplished albeit nothing on my todo list.
One of the best parts of the day was realizing there are 23 people who have been bringing me down the past two years. Over the next couple of days, I am going to tell 19 of them that we can no longer be friends.
The way I am going to do it is simple, if they live close I will do it in person, those who are not close I will call, if those two do not work I will send them a heartfelt email explaining why I feel the way I do and wish them luck in life.
I’m giving myself until the end of the second week of February to accomplish this. The remaining four will be on a per case basis, but they will only receive one warning. This reaction sounds harsh, but I have been just going downhill fast with everyone deciding I’m their go-to person for all of their problems; in some cases, it’s all we ever talk about, I can’t be around them.
I’ve been so hungry lately, and I’m still losing weight. I hope it stabilizes soon. I’m now on the lower end of my “healthy” weight.
Today was a historic day, on the eve of the first presidential SOTU, the HIC voted to release the four-page memo which was written by the Inspector General of the DOJ, who also provided 1.2 million pages to HIC. I’m so excited to read it.
There isn’t much else on my mind today. It’s just been a mental rest day.
I don’t want to touch my phone again tomorrow but I will. I have to talk with my Egyptian friend about work.
In order for us to grow, we have to be in control of those energies we allow around us. For us to be able to be the best that we can I honestly feel like we have to be selective about those we allow into our life. I agree with you, and it will be hard but once that band aid is off, its going to feel much better!! Good Luck!
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Cool….
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Sometimes we need to make drastic changes to keep our sanity. Good luck. I have had days where I unintentionally didn’t grab at my phone or get on my computer and it just seemed like I got more done. Go figure.
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I think it’s so important to evaluate if people around us are hurting us, and to allow ourselves not to have them in our lives. I too have been “the one people go to” a lot, and it’s so draining. I care too much, so I feel their pain. In the end, a lot of them get defensive about my advice, and mostly do whatever they’re gonna do anyway. It’s not their fault, I’m probably the same way. A lot of times, people just need somebody to listen. But again, I’ve realized a lot of me being the one to listen is because I am scared of not being liked, scared of hurting people. In the end, you end up hurting them anyway, cause you are human, and more importantly, you hurt yourself by trying to take care of people so much. Sometimes you even keep them from facing their own life lessons, by trying to “fix them.” So be proud of taking that step, of deciding who gets to be in your life, cause it’s hard, but very important.
@free_spirit_gal Thanks 😀. I fully agree with you. There is a fine line between friendship and unpaid therapy.
I just want to make the world a better place before I die.
@axalotal Another thing I realize is, sometimes when we try to help, we end up feeding into an energy that delays people’s own process of learning something, and fixing it/changing it themselves.
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