09/28/2011
So I asked for help, and I had hope…and now not so much.
I have a friend in Christchurch who is so lovely, she is just willing to go the extra mile for her friends. I have always been able to talk to her about anything, and I’ve been with her through a whole lot of crap in her life. So when I felt like I needed to ask for help, she was the one who I asked. I bawled as I typed her an email, it was really hard for me to admit to someone I know that I have a problem, I needed help.
She was so understanding, and offered to leave the next day. I said that she should wait a couple weeks, as her mum was waiting on some test results and she needed to be home for that.
Anyway, then it came up that I was going to go to chch the next weekend after she was to come up, for my friends Jason and Jaci’s combined 30th. They decided they wanted us there so much, they were paying for fuel. We are staying with another friend. This trip isn’t going to be costing us.
But now Celia is asking whether I need her to still come up or not. Like the fact we’re coming to chch is magically fixing my problems. Unfortunately, I lost my nerve, and said I felt too guilty to ask her to still come, so it was up to her. Sounds like she’s not coming.
I know part of it is financial for her, which I understand and unfortunately can’t help with. So I’m not blaming her, she’s an awesome friend and I can’t wait to see her when I visit.
But I’m feeling so low. I had pegged such hopes on getting my stuff sorted out!! This house and the mess of all the junk in it is dragging me down. That and lack of sleep, my youngest has decided to have a 2 hour playtime each morning lately at about 4am. Sigh.
Anyway, I know I will get through it. I just need to figure something else out, sort it myself. May even have to ask the mother in law to take them for a saturday. She’s coming tomorrow to watch them so hubby and I can go to dinner for our 5 YEAR ANNIVERSARY (oh my goodness)….so I might broach the subject then.
Ooh, and I went to the Italy vs USA rugby world cup game yesterday, courtesy of my father in law….and it was soooo fun to wave my flag and cheer for my home team! 😉
I know what you mean by how hard it is to actually get up the nerve and ask for help. Really great that you did, but a shame your friend isn’t going to be going up. Yay on 5 years! Well done.
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I know what you mean by how hard it is to actually get up the nerve and ask for help. Really great that you did, but a shame your friend isn’t going to be going up. Yay on 5 years! Well done.
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Aww *hug* I hope something works out so you can get things sorted in your house! I hope maybe your mother in law could take the kids for a day.
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Aww *hug* I hope something works out so you can get things sorted in your house! I hope maybe your mother in law could take the kids for a day.
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Hugs xx
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Hugs xx
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Congrats on 5 years!! Is there some service out there you get help from? Like through the anetnatal clinic or something? Some places here will do home visits and help you do your chores or watch kids so you can have a break. We also have a service for post and ante natel depression (which I’m not saying you have) that have social groups for Mum’s (or Mum’s to be) and Dad’s where the kids are
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Congrats on 5 years!! Is there some service out there you get help from? Like through the anetnatal clinic or something? Some places here will do home visits and help you do your chores or watch kids so you can have a break. We also have a service for post and ante natel depression (which I’m not saying you have) that have social groups for Mum’s (or Mum’s to be) and Dad’s where the kids are
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watched in another area so you can enjoy the group child free. I wonder if there’s something like that that would at least give you a break for a short while?
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watched in another area so you can enjoy the group child free. I wonder if there’s something like that that would at least give you a break for a short while?
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