Relationships survey
Family Relationships
1. How well do you get along with your parents?
My mother rather well.
My father could choke on a damn dead rodent and I wouldn’t care a bit.
2. If you do have siblings, are you close to them?
I have two brothers and two sisters … they are amazing and I love them all dearly.
2a. If you are close to them, it is because of being close in age or further in age?
The age differences are 4 years, 6 years, 13 years and 15 years.
2b. If you are NOT close to them, why?
n/a
2c. What would you do in order to get closer to your siblings?
Move back home.
3. Do you wish you had siblings? Why?
I love the ones that I have.
4. Did you know your grandparents? (If no, skip to question 5).
I didn’t know my father’s parents through most of growing up but do now. I knew my mother’s parents all of my life.
4a. How close were you to them?
Close to my mother’s parents until my grandfather passed away. Still close with my grandmother. My father’s parents I have been building a relationship with over the last 6 years.
4b. Do you respect them?
Immensely
4c. Have you ever made your grandparents cry, or disappoint them?
I’m sure I did at some point. It’s part of life.
5. Why do you not know your grandparents?
6. Does your entire family (not just immediate) get along?
If you remove my father from all scenarios then pretty much.
7. Are family reunions fun on both of your parents sides or is one boring and the other fun, etc?
Only my maternal grandmother’s family has reunions. They’re civil.
8. What would you do if your family hated your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse?
I don’t really know. Luckily I don’t have to worry about that, they love my husband.
9. Does it really matter?
To some degree, yes.
10. What does family mean to you?
Roots
Friendship Relationships
1. What is a friend?
A friend is someone who you can trust even on a bad day to not turn their back on you. A friend is someone who even if you go days, months, years without talking can pick up where you left off. A friend is family. I wish I had more friends but I’m completely satisfied with the few that I have.
2. Who are your friends?
Beth, Raymond, Jessica, Chuck, Brenda, David K.
3. Is there any of your friends you don’t really consider a friend, more of an acquaintance?
Well I don’t consider acquaintances to really be friends. There are some people who are friends but not close friends.
4. How did you meet your best friend?
We met in 7th grade English class.
5. Can one person have more than one best friend?
Yes and no. I have two best friends, Beth & Chuck. No one could replace either but the separate friendships don’t threaten the other.
6. Can a boy and a girl be just friends?
Yes.
7. What is the number one thing you will NOT tolerate in friends?
Someone who sees kindness as a weakness to take advantage of.
8. If you had to give a number, how many friends would you say you have (and you can’t say a lot or none…it has to be a number like 3 or 200, etc)
Close friends, maybe 6. Other friends I’d say about 100-125
9. Have any of your current friends backstabbed you? Why?
None of my current friends, the ones who do are no longer friends.
10. Do you think you’re a good friend? Why?
I think I’m a good friend for those who I am able to close to. There are some people I just can’t get close to for whatever reason. I try my best give as much as I can to friends when I can. I love to talk and listen. I try to give advice when I have anything to give, if someone wants it. I "collect" friends, the most precious ones I want for life and would do anything for them. My friends are my family.
Romance Relationships
1. Are you currently single, involved, married, or divorced?
Married
2. Do you like your current marital status? Why or why not?
Yes. I am happy where I am. I’m not always happy in my marriage, but I’m always willing to keep trying.
3. If you are involved
or married, how many months/years have you been together/married?
Together almost 14 years, married 12 years.
4. What is love?
Indefinable.
5. Do you see marriage as a thing of the past or will marriage continue to be a mainstream thing? Why?
It will continue for those who want it. It’s not for everyone and shouldn’t have to be.
6. Can you really love someone of the same sex and not confuse it with lust/sexual cravings? Why or why not?
I don’t see why not.
7. Can you be in a polyamourous relationship and still love someone?
If you’re someone who polyamory is for you then of course you can. For someone who is more monogamous and exclusive to one person than no.
8. Have you ever considered being in a polyamourous relationship?
Yes, but it’s ultimately not for me, or us.
9. Do looks really matter in a romantic relationship?
They tend to be the initial spark if meeting in person but not necessary for a romantic relationship. Looks fade, love doesn’t if it’s worth keeping.
10. How important should intimacy be in a relationship?
As important as those involved want it to be. Someone asexual obviously doesn’t have much level of physical intimacy but may have incredible mental intimacy. Love isn’t tailored to be one size fits all.
Sex Relationships
1. Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
yes
2. How do you feel about purely sexual relationships?
if they work for some people, so be it. It’s none of my business.
3. If you answered yes to the first question, would you ever be friends with benefits with someone again?
No
3b. What was it like having non-commited sex?
Not as easy as people think it is.
3c. Are you currently in one or did it disappear or did you become a couple?
No & No
4. If people married basically just because someone was good in bed, would that marriage have a better chance of surviving than a person who married someone for love and they had little sexual skills? Why or why not?
I don’t think there’s anyway to know for sure. I’m sure some marriages that were based purely on sex survived and some didn’t and vice versa for those that married for love.
5. Would you ever have sex with more than one person?
I have and never will again.
6. Have you ever had sex with more than one person? When? What was it like?
yes, it was a bad fucking idea.
7. Can sex toys help or hurt a relationship (non commited sex or a romantic relationship)
They can be annoying when you really aren’t wanting them but fun when you do. They’re a lot like men lol.
8. Do you like having sex with your current partner? Why or why not? (If you do not have one, skip this question)
I like having sex with him. I just don’t like having sex right now cause I’m dealing with body issue things. I’m not used to my new body. I still have fat girl issues.
9. Have any of your sexual fantasies came true?
Yes
10. Is premarital sex a true sin? Why or why not?
Fuck no! Come the hell on! It’s a fucking way for men to get token virgins. It’s bullshit (in my opinion).