This is why I love OD…

Quite a few people pointed out the very obvious solution to my little dilemma from the last entry: Noah and I should first hang out with the guy and his wife, as couples. Really, really obvious but for whatever reason it hadn’t occurred to me. So thanks. 🙂

It’s interesting, though….usually most of my notes on any given entry say roughly the same thing, but I had responses all over the map about the last one. It seems like a lot of people have totally different standards of what is ok in terms of having friends of the opposite gender when you’re in a relationship. So I got a couple "don’t hang out with him at all, it’s not ok to have a male friend while you’re with Noah" type notes, a couple "screw what Noah thinks, you can be friends with whoever you want," and a whole range in between. Which makes me think this just isn’t a very black-and-white thing, so I have to go with what makes sense to me.

I guess it wouldn’t really occur to me to not allow friends of the opposite gender, maybe because I’ve always had male friends? So if I had to only be friends with girls now that I’m in a relationship, then I wouldn’t have that many friends left. For whatever reason, I’ve always gotten along better with guys than girls. Noah knows that I have guy friends and hasn’t ever made it into an issue, because it’s just kind of who I am. He doesn’t have any close friends who are girls (or at least, none that he would hang out with alone, I think) but I don’t think I would mind if he did, as long as it was clearly platonic.

I’m sure there is some line, though, and I’m just not sure where it is. Getting together with a guy from baby playgroup seems on the very harmless side of that line. Breastfeeding in front of him, when we’re alone, definitely over the line. 🙂

I do know that Noah has nothing at all to worry about with this guy. I’m definitely not looking to introduce any kind of drama into my life, I just want a friend with a baby! And hopefully at some point I’m going to actually find some other moms that I can get along with, but getting along with women is sometimes not an easy thing for me. I mean, I "get along" with them fine, I just don’t really like them much.

At any rate, I told Noah that I met a dad at playgroup that I think he would like, and we should get together with him and his wife sometime. So hopefully the whole thing can stay very drama-free.