On thinking before judging
So when you see that mom in out in public with one child screaming, and trying to juggle a baby and everything else stop and think next time. Don’t sit there and judge her, glare and her and act so smug like your kids are perfect.
Maybe the mom isn’t a bad mother.
Maybe the child isn’t a brat.
Maybe they shouldn’t have to stay home for fear something like this could happen.
Maybe there is something more than you see.
Maybe offer to help? Or show some compassion.
Yesterday, I think Samara had her first panic attack. I was out with her and Sabastian and myself. I was struggling trying to carry both of them, and all I got were dirty stares, and disquested comments from everyone around me. I was trying to calm down my children, and get them out to decompress in a hurry.
It is so frustrating. I can deal with meltdowns, and commuincation problems, and lack of food, and mood swings. but the ignorance of others that kills me.
I was talking with another fav about how so much acceptance has gone into accepting those who look different. But what about those kids who look like everyone else but act differently?
Just a thought..
*hug*
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*hugs* Been there, hon! I hate grocery shopping because Brynn often wails the entire time and I feel like I have a sign on me that says, “Give me the stink eye and act annoyed because I can’t comfort this child!” You are an awesome mom!
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*hugs*
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🙁 I feel the same way about invisible illnesses. I look perfectly normal and healthy, but am in so much pain and deal with so many medical issues each day.. and people are very quick to judge based on the way I look, even when it isn’t a true picture.
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*hugs*
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I wouldn’t DREAM of judging any parent like that! I know better. 😉 <3
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Oh sweetie, I’m sorry. I would have offered to help you if I’d been there. Sometimes, when growing up, my kids really WERE little monsters for various valid reasons and a few times for no reason! I’d never, ever judge you or your kids. *hugs*
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Saw you on the front page. I don’t have children… But I think people forget that kids will be kids! They won’t act like angels while out in public 100% of the time. If the mom has clearly shown interest in calming her child, that’s all a bystandard (sp??) can ask! The only people I’ve ever given looks to are the ones that I’ve watched try to do NOTHING for their kids, for an extended period of time. We’re talking on a flight, train ride, etc… Where they haven’t tried ANYTHING to help ease that child’s boredom, etc.
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I don’t know what it is about us humans that finds such pleasaure in judging like that. Anyway, I’ve got one, and I know how you feel. 🙂
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Man…you gave me some something to think about. I can be an asshole when I’m an onlooker of your situation. Thank ya.
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That’s where those awareness T-shirts for kids with special needs come in handy – the kind that say things like ‘Yes, I have autism – what’s your problem?’ or ‘Hey, keep staring and you might just cure my autism – then we can work on *your* social skills’.
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My friend has had this happen to her time and time again. Her son has autism and has meltdowns at times. She has gotten stares, asked if she can control her child or why would she allow him to do that. It used to bring her to tears, now she just tells them that her son has a medical condition and just because he has a medical condition does not mean she is just going to leave him at home.
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That being the mother she is, she wants to spend time with him. So if that bothers them so be it, but her son is more important than anything they can say to her. usually shuts them up. LOL!
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Bravo, I know exactly what you mean. It’s incredible how willing people are to just stare and judge. It’s awful.
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