Prenups

So, Heather and I want to get prenups. Most people we tell this to seem completely shocked and some seem to wonder why we would want to get married at all if we have such apparent doubts. I suppose I can understand their point of view. A prenuptial agreement isn’t exactly the most romantic sentiment.

But here’s the thing: it’s not that we have doubts about our marriage per se. We don’t, really. We truly believe this is going to work. However, presumably <i>every engaged couple ever</i> also truly believed their marriage was going to work. Recent history shows that nearly half of those engaged couples turn out to be wrong. So, really, it’s practically arrogant to presume that we’re one of those couples who won’t have such problems. Granted, we don’t think of ourselves as one of those couples at all, but, again, few couples do, right? Our judgment on the issue is inherently clouded.

That said, I did a minimal amount of research into the matter and it seems like prenup agreements are really complicated and often don’t hold up in court. Honestly, I don’t see why we can’t just both sign a simple document saying the basics and have that stand up, but of course you have to get lawyers involved for anything to be taken seriously. And it’s not like either of us is exactly filthy rich. So it seems silly to shell out much money on a prenup when we don’t have many assets to protect anyway.

So, I’m not sure if we will actually end up going through with the prenups. However, I still support the idea. After all, what could be more romantic than saying to a person: “I really just love you for your person and have no interest in ever benefiting from your assets if we ever separate!”

Awww. It makes my heart melt.