And the Beat Goes On

So, I decided to gut out another week in the dance class. I actually followed things a lot better this week, though there was a minor misstep where I nearly dropped a girl flat on her face, which was embarrassing enough that I was pretty much ready to quit the class on the spot. I’m still uncertain if I’ll keep it up. On the plus side, the instructor seems to oddly think that I’m actually really good and has even made mildly flirtatious comments towards me. She happened to miss where I nearly dislodged a girl’s front teeth, mind you.

Meanwhile, I asked Robin on a date and apparently did it all wrong, at least according to the females that I’ve told about it. I told her I had a gift card to Outback Steakhouse and that she could use it with me if she wanted – right, I’m aware maybe this isn’t the most suave approach in the world. I don’t know, I really just don’t have the desire to pursue girls with this overly romantic pretense. I’m not trying to be prince charming and I’m not trying to play the dating game. She can either take me for what I am or not, but I’m not changing who I am so that it makes me more likely to get dates with girls. I’m pretty sure I’ll be the better off for it in the long run.

Which isn’t to say that I couldn’t have used a better approach than “Hey, want to use a gift card with me?” because I could have. I’m probably just defensive. I’m really just not interested in playing the dating game.

rockbottomoncloud9

February 13, 2008

whoa. what a trip. a friend of mine was invited to use a gift card to the outback with a guy she’s interested in. and she’s pleased about the lack of formality/romantic pretense stuff. i say do what comes naturally.

october rain

Oh come on, there was nothing wrong with the way you asked her. Are you seriously looking at her as girlfriend/dating/romantic potential? Casually asking her to dinner was just fine, your other girl-friends are too stuck up ^_^

wow, that first note is trippy. and as a girl, i wouldn’t mind being asked out in that way. i think it’s a nice gesture.

IceGurlie

“Use it with me,” that’s too cute!

Sleeping on it

I think it’s adorable the way you asked her out. I would take cute and genuine over romantic and fake anyday. Did she say yes? p.s. I am happy you tried dancing again and almost doesn’t count..so if the girl still has her teeth and you didn’t totally drop her, you are fine! *I wrote a very similar note and it deleted on me instead of posting…this one betterr work.

Yours For Now...

If you don’t play the Dating Game, then you automatically Lose. : ) ~I’ll be

maybe you need to stop looking at it as a game and decide what you want out of relationships with women.

Beautifully/Torn

So maybe it wasn’t the best way to ask her out, but whatever works. I wouldn’t find it weird if a guy asked me out like that. The important question is whether or not she said yes. P.S. Yay for dancing! TTFN and have fun, ♥ Andrea

As a side note: Your title is the title of an old Britney Spears song. I’m ashamed I know this. I’m even more ashamed of the fact that I now have it stuck in my head. TTFN and have fun, ♥ Andrea

Um, you might have just asked her to go to dinner with you and asked if Outback was okay. But Matt. You are so cute that it really doesn’t matter what you say. 😀 So, what did she say? Did you have a good birthday???

michael.

You invited her out to dinner! jesus what more do people want of you. Games are pointless. Hope it was a laugh. Surely if you start these things off all formal they’ll tend to stay formal, and formal dates with people you barely know are stupid.

I completely understand. I prefer guys who don’t try to do the ridiculous game of dating. There are too many rules…take me as I am, I say. That way, when it gets serious, you know you are already yourself and you don’t have to throw them with something else. You had a birthday? My god, my little Matty is growing up and I’m never going to be there to see his firsts. :/ Yay for swing class!

mairead

February 16, 2008

I think saying that is fine. Like you said, you want her to like you, not some Constructed Matt.