The diary that keeps on giving

Well, I’m spending my long weekend as I usually do, doing not much of anything. Of course, the primary reason I don’t have too much to do is that there hasn’t been adequate time for all of your gifts to arrive just yet, but, at least I have next weekend to look forward to.

Anyway, let’s change the subject from you giving me presents and transition to me giving you advice. This advice is related to my RFIM experiences, but I think it could apply to pretty much anyone. As all of you are aware, I get a high volume of RFIM’s messaging me relatively constantly, and the main objective of most (although not necessarily all) of them is to win my heart over and eventually meet and have beautiful children. This reality has caused me to realize something: Most people have no idea how to attract someone of the opposite (or same) sex.

Granted, it can be rather difficult when you’re face to face with your “crush” and your nervous system is racing at such speeds that all of your rational thought is pretty much focused on how to enunciate simple words, but the interactions I’m speaking of are on the internet, where most of the awkwardness of social situations is kindly tossed aside. Which brings me back to my original point: Most people have no idea how to attract someone of the opposite (or same) sex.

So, here’s a few pointers for all of you. First off, stop identifying every negative trait you have, especially within the first 5 minutes. You can not pity someone into loving you. It just doesn’t work that way. Saying your boyfriend/girlfriend just dumped you for no reason at all is not a good way to spark romance with people, nor is telling someone how worthless you believe yourself to be. So, there’s a start.

Secondly, persuading doesn’t work. You can’t rationalize someone into feeling attraction for you. Saying stuff like “I have a solid 9:00 to 5:00 job” or “I give good head” really only serve as claims that you’ll have to back up later, and don’t spark much genuine attraction. Attraction isn’t a choice, and you can’t convince someone to have it.

Of course, the best advice anyone can give you regarding romance is to “just be yourself,” right? Actually, although this piece of advice is generally considered to be absolute nonsense that your mother tells you, it’s really not so bad. The problem with this advice only arises when you consider yourself to be a worthless, desperate, pathetic human being, and, thus, when you try just being yourself you come across as worthless, desperate and pathetic. The obvious solution to this is to not be yourself at all, but, rather, to act like a strong confident person. However, I think a better solution to the problem is not to “act” as though you’re a strong and confident person, but, rather to become one. Of course, this is easier said than done, but it’s quite possible to do all the same, at least with a little hard work. Or at least I think so.

So, there you have it. Completed before you is another one of my guides to love. Really, this is the diary that just keeps on giving, isn’t it?