Slight Rant
I’m a bit peeved at some of the attitudes of two christian women on an email group I belong to….
Here is the conversation:
I have a question. Ugh! I am so aggravated.
First, I looked outside and I have 1 extra kid.
That turned into 2 extras.
Now, I have FOUR extras, along with my four kids. (8 total)
Now, here is the problem. I don’t mind them playing maybe once per week….but ANY free time we have, we have all the neighborhood kids coming over.
Here are some of my worries:
*These kids come from rough homes….2 of them have Mom in jail…1 of them has a daddy in jail….the other one I’m not even sure!
*They come any time my kids are outside. They do not ask to play or if they can stay. They are here 4-5 times per week. TOO Much!
*These kids come from extended family…. A family war could ensue should I say something.
How do I, politely, tell them enough is enough? Anywhere from 3 hours during a weekday to 8 hours on a weekend…..
Am I just being petty?
My kids are NOT allowed to any of their homes.
I guess I should add that NOT all of them are always here at the same time! (but they are today!)
Sometimes, it’s just one or two..
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I know how it feels to be the "go to house", I get plenty tired of having kids here all the time as well, but when i do I either ask them nicely to go home or put up with it, I have come to realize that as a Christian, I should be more loving and tolerant of other children and set a better example of how Christians should behave. I also have issues with her judgment of these young children, why can’t she set up ground rules of behavior and if they don’t abide by them request that they don’t play here? why does she judge these young children for their parents choices?
I am probably just being obnoxious but I truly feel that if we are going to call ourselves Christians we need to be a bit more understanding of other’s, especially children who live in horrid situations.
My kids seldom ever play by themselves for "family time", I just don’t get it.
I didn’t even post what some of the replies were, since they just seemed so wishy-washy or mean.
How hard is it to ask children to go home? and why can’t she understand that they are coming to her house because they see how much she loves her children? and they want that for themselves?
Yeesh.
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I would say that it’s a compliment if all the kids want to play at your house! She can always send them home if she’s tired of them being there but I think she should be kind to those poor children.
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I agree whole heartedly with you.
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hmmmmmmmm maybe you should tell her that.
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Yep, I agree with you too. And if she’s Christian, what happened to ‘judge not..’? And one more thing….if her kids can’t go to these kids’ houses, then the only way they can play with her kids, whom they obviously like to play with, is to come to her house. N’est ce pas?
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