PC Wanking.

I was talking to a friend last night about wanking. It’s a popular topic, what can I say? She’s never been able to figure out masturbate, let alone orgasm, as I’ve been trying to help her out. She’s not a moron, she knows anatomy. Among other things, I pointed out being psychologically into it.

Which got me thinking about myself. I recall a time when I tried laying on my bed and thinking “sexy thoughts”. I don’t know about anybody else, but this is the absolute worst way for me to try and masturbate. Consistently, I could not even get an erection. For one, nothing I could think of even remotely turned me on. I thought of all the hot erotica I’ve read before. Nothing. I thought of girls I’ve been with. Nothing. Two, when I did get an erection, it just didn’t feel that good. I think it has something to do with me being on my back.

I do most of my masturbating either seated or standing. If I haven’t been wanking myself to death, it’s just not that difficult to get an erection and subsequently masturbate.

The question “What do you think of when you masturbate?” makes me laugh. Me? Absolutely nothing. If I’m really into a good wank, my mind is completely blank. I’m just focusing on the sensations and augmenting my stroking to maximize sensation. I can’t say I think about bitches and hoes when I’m wanking. I just grab my penis and stroke in a pleasurable manner.

Something else I don’t think I’ve heard anybody mention. I noticed a long time ago that when I wank, I’m almost constantly clenching my PC muscles. If I want to last longer, I just release my PC muscle slightly. Helps keep me from orgasming. I’ve been doing it without realizing it for so many years. I mean, there’s almost no thought to it.

If I try to wank while my PC muscles are not clenched, it’s near impossible to get hard. If I wank without clenching my PC muscles, it doesn’t really feel like much.

It makes me wonder. There’s a good chance that when girls masturbate, they clench their PC muscles probably the same way I do. No? If so, why isn’t this ever pointed out in the “A Girl’s First Wank” literature? Kegels are pretty damn important!

*shrugs* If you told me years ago I’d find so many ways to discuss wanking, I would have told you I would have long exhausted all potential topics.

I do need to clench to orgasm. Strangely enough, my partners have not minded. But then again, a woman’s concerns during sex are not the same as a man’s.

Tell your friend to use a LOT of lube. I still have difficulty having the big O unless I’m wet enough on my clit. It’s weird but true.

Well said! Kiegels are incredibly important to maintaining a tight wuss. You know, I don’t masturbate much, but one of the last times I did, I was reading Ayn Rand and fingering at the same time. For some reason it turned me on a lot.

You crack me up. Everything you write is seems so true and you write exact what you feel or think. I love it. We need more people like you on OD. If you could, take a picture of yourself and post it. Have you changed at all in the past few years?