I promised myself I wouldn’t.

I’m feeling kind of jaded. I promised myself ages ago I’d never get jaded over girls. But. It’s how I feel. Consistently over the years, girls never have time for me. Is it just the girls I’m interested in? I don’t know. Should I be more aggressive? Why don’t girls show more interest in me? I feel myself getting pathetic really fast, just wishing anything good would happen to me.

Meh. Annotated. Now go get some sleep.

In the short time I’ve known you, it seems you keep repeating the same pattern. Your need for physical closeness impedes your desire to go slow and make sure someone really likes you before you get physical. Though you want to be loved and have someone truly care about you, it seems for some reason, that in spite of wanting that, you keep sabotaging it by doing the one thing you insist you will wait to do; being more physically intimate than you stated you would be from the start. I think your desperation for affection overrules your ability to refrain from finding it in the only way it seems as though you believe you can find it. Please know I am not saying this accusingly, and that I realize fully that I could be entirely off base. I just see, sometimes, the same things I do in you. The reason I will not pursue a relationship anytime in the near future is because I continue to choose the same kind of relationship over and over again, one in which I will end up feeling, and most likely being, rejected and/or treated poorly. I’d like to see more for you. I hope you can find a way to remove yourself from this pattern. *hug* Rose

She has a life too. Give her some room. It’s what you’d be telling me.

Guys do have it rough. Women want to be pursued…but only if they want to be pursued by you. Some are so shy that they make you think they don’t want it. Others…really don’t want it. What’s a guy to do? Be friendly. Be funny. Be a little bit forward, but watch for signs of clear disinterest and back off quickly. And look around you, somebody you don’t expect might just be crushingon you.

ryn: If by more lovin’ you mean more sex… then I’m afraid you’re kind of doomed to keep getting stuck in sexual altercations that have no substance which means not getting the girl. If by more lovin’ you mean more physical intimacy without needing sex of any kind, and build a friendship/relationship first the chances of having someone stick around are much higher. Good luck, Rose

Befriend is good. Best case…it’s a good basis for more. Worst case…you end up with another friend.

RYN: And moms are girls that just got older and had kids. Some of us learned a few things along the way. But a good many of us forgot more than we learned.