On False Self-Perception.

There’s a reason I picked the three qualities I did for my Trifecta entry. Simple: They are boolean values. They are either true, or they are false.

We can think of lots of awesome qualities we’d want in a partner. The problem is that if you ask most people if they have these qualities, they’ll probably say yes. For example, are you a giving person? You can think you are, but be wrong. Maybe what you consider giving just isn’t “enough” giving for me.

Are you intimate, are you affectionate? Maybe there are people out there that proudly proclaim how non-intimate they are, though I doubt they are numerous. Maybe some people are proud of how cold they are. Are you outgoing? Again, under what circumstances? Most of these adjectives are quite relative. Are you honest? Who is going to say they’re a lying bastard?

And then there’s wanting common interests. Video games? Well, okay, it would be awesome if a lady did like them, but it’s cool if she doesn’t. We can have differing interests. (That’s another thing you can internally lie about.) I’m into Star Trek. What if another Trekkie just annoys the shit out of me due to her personality? It’s not a guarantee.

Of course, I wouldn’t claim the Trifecta is a guarantee, either. Is it possible a girl’s so anti-circ she starts crying when she sees my penis? Maybe, and that would make me feel like, “Uh, dude, I’M the one that was circumcised, don’t be having me comfort YOU over this!” Being hairy, as most people associate it, could mean sheer laziness, comformity to anticomformity (in a bad way), or a byproduct of overall bad hygiene. It’s possible. A girl could be so maternal that she doesn’t let me have a say in parenting-type stuff.

But!

It’s something. Heh. Foreskins, breasts, and hair. I don’t think you can predict someone’s personality, but I bet taking a poll of these chicks would reveal some people I’d want to meet. And in truth, there IS a grayscale to these three qualities as well. But at least you know where the middle is, without a doubt.

Oh, nevermind. It was just an amusing thought, as I thought of how I could possibly describe a potential mate. It’s better than “blonde, huge rack, and dumb.” Though, there are those proudly out there, too.

Just understand that sometimes when you ask people about themselves, you can’t always take them at their word. That’s why I prefer let people get to know me on their own terms, rather than telling them about me. No doubt two people will understand me differently, just the same as I will understand a girl differently than she understands herself.

Jennifer*Shane

November 13, 2006

ryn: that makes two of us

*nods* they really are

*laugh* it’s okay, i started contriving things to say about 3 notes ago and actually… yea! i have! my friend maygan is sooo supercute and i have the biggest crush ever on her… and i’m not usually shy at all, but i just can’t bring myself to fess up–probably because she’s already seeing two different people… *sigh* i am sortaseeing this rather adorable guy though, but i can tell it’s notgoing to last much longer

yea, it does tend to get very frustrating when people are paying attention to someone other than you… *pays attention to you* 😉 😛 i saw your boybits on LJ the other day. very nice.

lol okay *goes to comment*

yea, i already gave you all the advice i know about research papers in that thread on the boards. my last bit of advice though is that they’re damn near IMPOSSIBLE to write the night before they’re due–and i’m the master (mistress?) of writing papers just hours before their due dates and you’re welcome 🙂

oh i’m naughty 😉 *laugh* but i must admit, i’m a bit of an LJ novice… how do i join timmyporn?

and have you at least picked a topic yet? cuz that’s a good place to start 🙂

how chivalrous of you 🙂 i’d heard about the exhibitionism, and thus was only mildly shocked when i saw your balls i’d be more exhibitionistic if my mom didn’t read my diary. in fact i used to keep a separate diary for that purpose, but then i got lazy about updating it i wish i could bring myself to turn in crap papers–as it is now, i’d rather recieve the zero than turn in a paper that ithink is shit… unfortunately that means i’ve recieved quite a few zeros

well i was lurking. it’s a good thing i don’t check lj at work 😛 i’ll OD at work, but not anything else my family knows what i used to do, and even though i don’t care what they think, it just avoids the hassle of yet another lecture about weirdos on the internet, and someone using things against me later when i become all successful and shit (because that’ll ever happen *rolling my eyes*)

*giggles* you actually made me blush!! do you have any idea how hard that is?

Zedlavharas.

I wholeheartedly agree. Most people will probably tell you that they are whomever they would like to be. It is not always the way that they are actually perceived. Then you have to wonder if it is a perception problem or if the person really just isn’t who they’ve said they were. Or perhaps they really just don’t know themselves and they think they are exactly as they’ve advertised themselves to be. Hm.

Evil Peanut

RYN: it won’t be on the exact same day, but it will be very close to christmas, which was my due date. I don’t think I would ever forget it anyway…but having it on one of the most major holidays in our country REALLY makes it impossible to forget. Doing something for myself and Ned, something showing we conquered this, I think somehow will make me feel better. That’s not my only reason but I think it might be part of it.

HoneyCat

very interesting about the jewish circumcision methods, I didn’t know. espec. re the drop of blood – which makes sense because it is symbolic of something else anyway

Perhaps this link describes your perfect woman: http://www.wikihow.com/Be-More-Physically-Attractive-Women PS: I’m joking by sending you this. I bet you will especially appreciate the part about how weight training is not advised for women. And also, apparently we’re supposed to be 50-100% feminine. OH DAMN – I’m only 22% feminine! 😛

I like your trifecta– but you might want to find something that indicates sanity or a non-addictive personality. Every divorce I’ve seen lately has been attributed to the lack of both or one of the two.

I said this because I know someone who meets your first three criteria but is batshit crazy. The person who figures out how to weed her out is going to make serious $$. “How to Make Friends and Keep Crazy Women Away” by _________ ___________

Alpha Female

Ah, but what if the girl has a foreskin?