The FUN keeps right on coming

There is NEVER a dull moment in my life. Sometimes though, I would love of dose of dullness. Some peaace and quiet and days went along like a softly gently moving little stream with barely any movement or ripples. DOn’t think that will happen for a very long time though.  Not so long as my kids are young and do STUPID things.

Saturday night, my daughters soccer team had there annual dinner dance/silent auction. Very relaxing, fun time, good food (prime rib. chicken or fish) and getign to catch up with people you only see running from practice s to games, etc.

It was actually going along quite well, I was having fun, talking, laughing, etc (hubby was his usual quiet). After dinner …about 9:30 I was up at the silent auction tables with friends and I see hubby heading my way. There was a slow song playing an i though to mysefl, “how nice, he’s going to ask me to dance”.  NOT. Seems he received a phone call from my NEIGHBOR that there was an ambulance, a police car and 3 sets of irate, angry parents at our house……and WE’RE not home….how good does that look?  She tells us that it looks like one of the 3 girls that were over my house , friends of our 15 yr old son S, may have broken her collar bone, falling off a couch!!!!!!! On the way home our son in college calls to say we shouldn’t yell at our son S.., because he is very uspet about what happened. So upset that neither he nor our daughter thought to call us to tell us there was an accident at our house. NO>………a neighbor sees the ambulance, calls another neighbor and she comes down to see what’s wrong. My children will call for stupid things, yet when there is an emergency, no damn call. Yet, my daughter goes online to see if her older brother is on line which is how HE found out about it. I was so furious over that. Then we get home. my neighbor is still here and my house is TRASHED. they must have been running around like lunatics. Garbage, instead of bein gin the garbage can was on the kitchen table, newspapers ready for recycle was all over the table, not in the neat pile I had it in when I asked son nto TAKE IT OUT to the recycle can in the garage. There was about 25 cups overflowing in my sinl, yet there were only 7 people in the house. Juice containers were thrown around too. Wasn’t that a lovely thing to have strangers see in your house when a child gets hurt at your house…..lovely, simple lovely. Then we find out that when the police and EMS arrive and the parents, my wonderful child, whose friend is lying on a board and the parents are screaming, leaves and goes up to his room and shuts the door, leaving my 13 yr old and her 2 friends to explain what happened. So irresponsible of him. Between that and him NOT CALLING US, I was ticked to say the least.

Of course, you KNOW there had to be a fight shortly after my neighbor left. One for them not calling and two for the house being trashed. So he starts on my daughter (whose friends have now run downstairs to get away from the yelling), he has her in tears. when I ask her what is wrong she cries that  HE yells all the time and now her friends want to go home and even her other friends don’t want ot come over any more because of how much he yells all the time and it’s embarassing. so he yells about that. It’s HIS house and he has a right to yell and if her friends don’t like it, it’s too damn bad and they can go home. Then he yells at her for not calling us and S tells hm to stop yelling at her cause it’s not her fault, which then had him go off on BOTH of them. Meanwhile I’m cleaning the kitchen table and talkign around his yelling tot he kids telling them thye SHOULD  have called us and just generally trying to calm him down and get h im to shut up. SO then he went off on S about his work, and how the owner is taking advantage of him and older son M. Seems older son M told boss, I will make calls and get people to work, you don’t have to…this way they work with there friends (both boys work on a local farm spring – fall). Well hubby had a fit that S was making the phone calls and went off on that. Made the mistake to ask MY OPINION and I made the mistake in giving it. Said I didn’t see it that way as we really had no way of knowing if M volunteered to do this, or if owner told him to. I said it sounds like M volunteered. WRONG!!!!! So he starts on me about that and about the house being a pig sty and how embaarassing it was to walk in and see it. Basically, it was MY fault. So I calmly say, I’m not fighting with you and walk away, continuing with cleaning up the kitchen. Didn’t work at all, he kept following me, again asking my views on the work situation, again I explain how I don’t have aproblem with it UNTIL I find out what and  how it was asked of them to make the calls. Now to me, it stands to reason, the kids would want to work with there friends and I can totally see our older son saying he’ll do the calling to get people to work…it works out to his advantage to be with his friends AND get paid. Finally HE went to bed and I went downstirs to the computer to play games as by now……I had a migraine.

On Sunday, I called the parent whose child had gotten hurt…they were wrestling, she didn’t fall off a couch, and yes her collar bone is broken. I felt horrible having someone get hurt at my house. She SAID she doesn’t blame us, after all we didn’t know the kids would be over our house.

Then I get an email from someone whom hubby talks to, but doesn’t know that we’ve become friendly too. Seems he wrote h er and told her about the incident and how I was the lunatic screaming all over theplace and how it’s ALL MY FAULT the house is a mess, cause I NEVER do ANY cleaning. And how any leaningand laundry that gets doen is done by HIM>  Funny, it must have been my frigging twin cleaning upstairs on Sat, cause it couldn’t have been me. He said I am OUT ALL THE TIME. ANd you know what, he’s right…I am.  WiTH OUR CHILD. Practice 3 days a week, games and tournaments. Oh, yes, I DO have the nerve to go to book club every 6 weeks or so. which if he thought about since we don’t meet in July, August or Sept, and there are only 7 of us in the book club, we only really meet approx 7 times in a YEAR. Oh yes, I also play volleyball in the spring and fall, twice a yr for an hour,,,how dare I. To be honest, all of us avoid the house.

Anyways, that was my FUN weekend. And I am going to look into getting family counselling, he needs it more than anyone.