Patrisha

July 10, 2006

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Another Reason I Love Fred

As regular readers know, Fred is six years older than me. He also is an insulin-dependent diabetic and has wonky kidneys. So, although we have never talked about it, I have always been aware that statistically speaking, the odds are that he will die before I do. {Mind you, my BIL has Parkinsons and is 12 years older than my sister was and she died first, so I do know the difference between statistically speaking and real life. }

However, to go back to what I wanted to say. Almost right out of the blue, last night Fred told me that he was going to do something that would mean that if he dies before I do, I will not have to negotiate a way out of this new lease we will be signing at the end of this month for the first year in this apartment below where our rent has doubled. I will have some breathing room before I have to make a decision about moving… {We are both on fixed incomes and if there was only one of us, there is no way that person could pay the rent for the new apartment.}

This came as a complete surprise to me. We are not married {for a couple of very good reasons} so I have never financially expected him to support me — just to pay his fair share which, of course, he expects from me. We have an household bank account in both our names to which we contribute monthly and equally and out of which the rent, utilities and groceries come. If more is needed, we both contribute equally–for example, we have both just tossed into the account a couple of hundred dollars each for moving expenses.

I had NO idea he was thinking about this. Of course, being the worrier I am, I had thought about it. I LOVE Vermont and would be happy to spend the rest of my life here but it is a frighteningly expensive state. {From my small experience, so is every state with a big tourist industry.} I had thought that I if I was left alone, I would advertise for a room mate and thus gain a little breathing room in that way. but now I won’t have to.

I felt lots of emotions last night when he brought this up and told me what he was going to do. This morning they are all condensed into the wonderful feeling of being loved and cared for…

It doesn’t get better than this… So, in case you don’t know, Fred, I love you…

Until later….

Smithereens

July 11, 2006

And there’s no nicer feeling. Have a great day. 😉

VeronicaCorningstone

It’s a very nice feeling to know that you’re with someone that cares for you so much. I’m glad you have Fred. 🙂

Jinn

It always feel good when we realize we are loved…Good for Fred…

TheWoodsprite

Fred is a good man…. just the kind of partner you deserve to have. :o) !! hugs, Weesprite

SillySillySandee

Thats love! More people need people like Fred. Im glad you have him. {{hugs}}

Fred is a good person. Honorable.

Red Wolf

What a sweet man!

The Kid

🙂

Silverkitty

You might not have stood up in front of a preacher and said ‘I do’, but after seven years you’re a family… he loves you and he wants to leave you provided for and that’s a good thing (why don’t you two want to make it official? It would make things a lot simpler when one of you passes away, and it’s going to have to happen one day… but a living will and a good will can take care of that too…

now RYN – is there anything else I should do for my eye? John’s had conjunctivitis about a zillion times when he was living in the dorm at Faith Farm, but I can’t even remember the last time I had it! (huggles)

Violet

Sweet.

Mezzo

Smiling here… There’s nothing quite as wonderful as being loved, is there? Love you guys! ~M

Fred is one of the very best of men. 🙂

cyanide

awwww!

Kemma

Fred truly is a great man. But we already knew that.

Lily47

Yes this is wonderful. Hats off to Fred and to you too for the beautiful relationship you have built.

momof2boys2

He is a wonderful man and I think the way you talk about him in this diary he knows it. It is always nice to hear such special things for older, mature people. I am glad to see it still goes on after all these years.

greeneyes&sunflowers

awwwwww!!!!!! *huggs* and ryn: I know you haven’t just feeling a little on the low side last night, with a touch of overwhelmed.

SomeKindOfACircle

He’s always sounded like a wonderful guy, and I think you are both so lucky to have found each other. What a relief for you to have this taken care of. Can we clone him? Claire