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May 26, 2012

wow that is really gross 😛

May 26, 2012

mmm yummy.

So glad you found the ring! Some people in the United States will take a piece of the wedding cake, freeze it, and eat it on the 10th anniversary. I got married in Lake Tahoe (it’s like Las Vegas) and so never had a wedding cake, so didn’t do that. I do, however, have an empty champagne bottle with the date of the marriage written on the label. We had gotten it to drink on our 10th anniversary but somehow, when we went to drink it then, all the champagne was gone. Never did figure out what happened because the cork was still on it. Hmmm…wonder if that was the reason we got a divorce after 27 years, the emptiness of the bottle? So you’re not the only hoarder. In fact, this weekend I’m going to get rid of more stuff. But not that empty bottle.

May 26, 2012

Whooo hooo! Well done on all counts.

May 26, 2012

I don’t think that wedding cake would taste very nice!!

May 27, 2012

Serendipity about the ring – and less so about the cake! If that had been in out garage the mice would have eaten it – they would have found a way in to the Tupperware.You have inspired me to do some de cluttering

Yeah, I wouldn’t fancy a slice of that. *shudders*

May 27, 2012

Oowieeeee, glad you got rid of the cake. lololol. And good for you for being so brave to clean up. It’s so liberating! I better practice what I preached, huh? lololol. But I’m very proud of you and Nicky! You set a great example. I watch the ‘hoarder’ shows from time to time on tv. Can’t believe some people’s mindsets! Horrifying. But I’m mostly amazed that it is called a mental illness. In my world it is called laziness. Lolol. We tend not to soft-soap anything around here and perhaps it is a good thing. I hope you enjoy a wonderful restful day after your big clean-up. Phew! It’s hard work.

Lucky the cake just got solid. I’d have been afraid to open the tupperware box.

May 27, 2012

Oh yuk ! my daughter still has hers and they’ve been married 11 years next week. Hate to think what its like !!!

May 27, 2012

Passing down rings is a nice thing to do, IÂ’m not so sure about cake; seen just before dinner! When Sweetheart and I got engaged her Dad brought out a bottle of wine, he bought it in France, on his way home from Cairo at the end of WW2. Alas nether he or Mar-in-law were wine drinkers, the bottle had stood upright for 25 years; not palatable covers it all Â….

May 27, 2012

well matured I would say

I don’t think you’ll lose it. I think it wanted to be found. I’m very glad you did. I recognized that cake as a wedding cake immediately. 🙂 Oh dear. I didn’t keep mine but I do understand why it would’ve been hard to get rid of. Kind of shows how you’re healing and moving on that you can now. Good stuff.

Reading this in all sorts of different orders. Lovely to find love poems your Dad wrote. That must be very special. And a story…am wondering you will do with it. I hope you will do something with it. Who knows. And I just wanted to say – if ever you took anything away from your marriage, you have the finest thing of all in Nikki, and now she’s busy creating another very fine thing. Your granddaughter. 🙂 And then my eye fell on the_mysticalmuse’s note about laziness and I was going to make mine private but I’ve decided to own it. I watched ‘Hoarders’ on BBC recently and was absolutely shocked by these two men who had totally filled their houses and even the garden, in one case. Laziness…perhaps there is a part of laziness, and I’ve always thought my problem was laziness, but since I watched that programme I’ve been finding it harder to declutter and reorganise. Hearing that it is a recognized mental condition and that hoarders need help has given me courage. I’m kinder to myself. I try to step outside of myself and ask if I really need to keep the thing that I’m trying hard not to throw away. I listen to myself if I feel the panic rising and try to compromis

I try to push through the panic that I feel with regards to paperwork which means it remains in bags and drawers and cupboards rather than being taken care of instantly. I try to do it little by little and recognize the progress rather than chastise myself about all I haven’t done. I found the programme liberating and now I’m finding the decluttering liberating. Anyway…don’t know why I’m telling you all that.

May 27, 2012

Isn’t “pitching,” “recycling,” “donating” as life giving as losing actual pounds. I swear I feel lighter. You two deserve applause. / The lost and found ring will probably remain in that box. I, for one, have the intestinal fortitude to see your wedding dress./ I can imagine the emotional intensity of finding your Dad’s love letters!! Plus, the beginning of a story, and with it the significantdiscovery your Dad may have wished to write. That’s quite a day!

May 30, 2012

Am so glad the ring turned up. I’d be afraid to wear it too, with so much family history in it. Here in the us the top of the wedding cake is traditionally eatten by the bride and groom on their first anniversary. My husband wants me to wear my wedding dress for our 30th anniversary. I’m 3 sizes bigger now — no pressure! Spring cleaning is such a good thing, once it’s done. I haven’t started yet:-)

May 31, 2012

oh yeah… I knew that was a wedding cake right away. Sounds like sorting the house is going well.

June 7, 2012

Oh, I’m SO glad you found the ring… and what a weird way to find it! Obviously it was wanting to be found. That is hilarious about the cake– here, at least in our part of the country, you traditionally save the top layer of the cake for the first anniversary. A little easier than carting it around in freezers till babies are born! It was hard enough to keep one year, as I recall, since First Husband and I moved about three times our first year of marriage. Baker B and I didn’t follow that tradition. I think I’d have had a hard time throwing the cake out at this point because… it’s an antique!! Well, okay, maybe not. But I do have a ridiculously hard time pitching anything that’s very old. Just this weekend I was going through boxes of junk, and finding things that I had NO idea why I’d kept- old brochures from places I didn’t even remember going, old class schedules from college… and even though the sane part of my brain screamed, THROW THIS CRAP OUT!!!!, the insane hoarder part wouldn’t let me… because… it’s OLD!!! I really really should have been a historian.

June 7, 2012

And how interesting to find the things your dad had written. Oh, also meant to say this reminds me that I have NO idea where my first wedding dress is. I hope in my parents somewhere, since my mom made it. I never did get it properly cleaned and stored.

July 9, 2012

Good for you and Nikki for getting all of her stuff organized. Interesting story about the ring! You have to wear it. If it is on your finger, you won’t lose it.

August 4, 2012

Thanks for the notes. For a 28 year old cake that doesn’t look too bad. Maybe serve it with some ice cream?

August 4, 2012

That cake is older than me!