Ants Marching…
Last night I had another weight gain dream. I woke up at 4am, crying because I had gained all of it back. It took a few minutes to shake the haze and realize I was dreaming. However, in that short amount of time, I had overwhelming feelings of failure, self-hatred and disgust. The thought of returning to 400+ lbs is terrifying. Realistically, I know that I am a strong person and this scenario is unlikely, but it will always be a possibility.
I injured my foot last week (no clue what I did), and after too much self-diagnosis, I’m going to see my doctor. My workouts haven’t been up to par this week because of the minor pain. The Danskin TRI is less than a month away, and I need to have everything working properly. 🙂
Chesty and I are going out with some of my coworkers on Friday. I haven’t had a rowdy girls night out in awhile, so I’m looking forward to it. All of “party” clothes are ridiculously big these days, so I’ll be going shopping this week. Lane Bryant is still carrying some awful looking shit, so I think Ashley Stewart will be getting my $.
I’m ashamed to admit that I have a reality show addiction. My favorite fixes: Real World, Road Rules, Anna Nicole Smith show (Bobby Trendy is a trip!), The Bachelor, and Sorority Life (I belonged to a service sorority in college and the girls weren’t nearly as hateful as some of these heifers). I look forward to seeing The Simple Life. The show features the Hilton sisters “roughing it on a farm with no money, expensive clothes or credit cards”. LOL
I wonder who will be booted off of AI this week? A lot of people are saying Kimberly, but I think she may have a few tricks (and hopefully right notes) up her sleeve. Clay and Ruben better bring their A games. Speaking of games, GO MAVERICKS!
I am still trying to decide on an outfit for my friend’s wedding in August. I thought the decision was made, but now I’m leaning towards a blouse/skirt combo instead of a dress. Is this too casual? I’d put some strappy sandals with it…not feeling those shoes.
A friend of mine has lost 200 lbs with WW. She has regained 50+ lbs over the last several months. I want to offer her encouragement, but I feel she really needs a major kick in the ass. Any suggestions on how to bring her back to reality without hurting her feelings?
I hope everyone is having a great week. I am not looking forward to the doctor tomorrow, but I promised my mom I would go. *sigh*
Until next time…
-C
Perhaps in some way your dream about you gaining the weight back was really about your friend gaining the weight back that she has? C, just continue to be as caring and as encouraging as you always are, but be direct — I’m sure it will be taken as it is intended, especially if it is a friend. They will be greatful! I hope your foot is okay! It will be very difficult to do the tri without you!
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I think the outfit is very stylish. I don’t think it is casual at all, especially if you accessorize sistah! Some nice strappy shoes and necklace will look awesome! 🙂
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Re: your friend. Did she ask for support, help or discussion about this? IF yes, I would kick her butt. If not, I would butt out. As you know, weight loss motivation has to generate first from the person. If she has gained the weight and is not voicing trouble over it or not voicing anything, I would not say anything. OTOH, if she asks for help or pity, then it is fair game to be honest.
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I agree with above noter, let her know that if she had the will and strength to lose all that weight, she should keep it off. I’m sure she won’t take it the wrong way. The outfit is pretty cool, not too casual at all.
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Oh God, that’s hard, about the friend. I would want someone to give me a kick in the ass if I were her. Does she live close by? Can you ask her to start being your walking or exercise buddy?
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The outfit sounds nice and perfectly appropriate. I mean really, how dressy can they expect someone to get for a wedding that you’ll be going to and from in 100 degree heat? I think you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your friend and ask her what’s going on. Is she depressed or whatever. Then if that doesn’t get results, kick in the rear. Nicely though. 🙂 Hope the foot’s o
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I have gained and lost and gained and lost 100’s of pounds. It’s an addiction just like drugs or alcohol. Ask your friend what, if anything, she wants from you. Then honor her request. She is already kicking the hell out of her own ass. I like the outfit, too, although I have never been fond of white skirts. Maybe a print or color? And strappy shoes would be great.
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i think the outfit is a little plain .. but strappy f-me shoes and some accesories will make it look just faboo! loves,
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I *really* like the skirt and top.. the strappy sandals will be perfect, and some flashy accessories will complete the look. 🙂 That’s tough about your friend who’s regained.. does she ever make mention of it? Or does she seem to be unaware?? I know she must realize she’s gained some back, but maybe she doesn’t realize how much. Or maybe she feels more comfortable with the extra ::c::
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::c:: weight? I don’t know.. but I agree with the noter who said to ask her honestly what she’d like you to do, and then do it. 🙂 And you know my addictions to reality TV.. do you notice that on Sorority Life, they’re always eating at Applebee’s?? LOL, of course I do, because I have no life. 😉 Good luck at your weigh-in today!
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uh, apparently I have my days mixed up.. good luck at your weigh-in TOMORROW. 😉
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Ha, sometimes I think I’m living the dream and that I’m going to wake up weighing 300+ again, does that make sense? I hope for both of us that we nevergo back, and that we have our friends to help keep us in check. Maybe you need to ask your friend what is going on? Ask her if she needs to talk to you, and let her know you are there for her. Is she complaining about the weight gain, or…
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is she indifferent about it? It is a tough situation to approach, no matter what. Good luck at the DR, let us know what’s going on with your foot! I hope it is nothing more than maybe some bruising. I like the outfit a lot, some strappy sandals and a fancy necklace can really dress it up. Try some body shimmer lotion, too. (Like Bath & Body works, it is subtle but dresses up the skin.)
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So much to comment on in your entry. First, the weight gain dream scares me and I didn’t even have it. It’s scary that all those feelings come flowing back just because of a dream but for me, I haven’t left those feelings behind yet so I can’t identify with them being gone. I can’t believe you still have them after you’ve come so far and that scares me.
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About your friend with the weight gain, whew. What about this? Are you close enough to her to say “Jane, I know how hard you worked to lose ### pounds and I know how good it made you feel. If I gained that much I would want my friend to tell me ‘insert your comment here’ but I’m not sure what to say to you” Maybe that would let you know if she wants you to kick her in the ass or
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pretend that you can’t see the re-gain. In any event – I feel terrible for your friend 🙁 I also had a foot injury this week and I also have no clue what I did to it. I pampered mine for about 4 days wearing only my comfy walking shoes and it’s starting to feel better tonight. I hope you have good week!
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I did WW too and lost 45 pounds in 4 months! I think it was the greatest thing i ever did for myself and now I go to the gym 3-4 times per week and eat so much more healthier! Congrats and good luck in the future!!
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i KNOW you are too strong & determined to gain any of it back permanently (i say permanently b/c you know life can throw curves balls & suddenly things slide just a teeny bit) & you wouldn’t EVER gain more than a few pounds before you kicked it all back to the curb! of course at 4am anxiety levels from dreams over-ride every logical thought. have faith in yourself & remember it’s just a dream.
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I think I would advise you to stay out of your friend’s bizness, too. (Similar situation in my life going on). If it were you, what would you want? Kicked in the butt, or let be? She knows how big her ass is. She knows how to get rid of it. 200 pounds is a huge loss. Maybe it scared her and she didn’t recognize herself. We have psychological issues about this stuff, y’know. 🙁
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