04/17/2010

Ok, so therapy.

Where do I start?  Well our therapist is an older woman and apparently has had a book published as she flaunts it in her office which is piggybacked to her house. She is a civil war buff and enjoys dancing. Why do I know so much you ask? Well she couldn’t exactly NOT talk about herself initially until with some pregnant pauses she got the hint we wanted to get our money’s worth.

So it began, initially with us listing our issues and then we began to work through the first point. I was not nervous persay but just a bit guarded as I honestly felt the cards stacked against me. She was pretty decent about the whole kick & stroke at both of us. There were points that she levelled at us both in an objective way which was helpful in lending some insight beyond the rabid haze which has enveloped our marriage.

I feel confident that this woman may be able to help us. Our next appointment is this friday coming so we’ll see what happens in this next turn.

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So this morning I rose at 6:30 and began to get ready for my outing to NYC to meet up with the girls. Alicia & Marianne were two of my first friends I met my freshman year and we remained tight throughout those years there. Alicia is a bit of a spitfire, ecclectic and sexually repressed while Marianne is stern, a nympho and just very to the point with how she feels/thinks about things. We sat at S’mac and reminisced about Alicia as everything about Marianne I remember involved her sexual escapades with her then boyfriend Jon, and I didn’t want to make her fiancee Ray feel uncomfortable. Something about her 4 hour sex outtings in the trainstation parking lot just don’t sound like they’ll go over well. I like Ray, he’s cerebral without being snooty and poised, for once I think marianne isn’t the master of the relationship which is such a big change.

We tooled around town, our trip to Gothic rennaissance brought about a tidbit of Alicia gossip regarding a friend whom she’s having a tryste with.

He’s married & has 2 kids.

At first she was so sheepish to tell me simply asking if I was FB friends with him and I said yes and then she just didn’t say anything.

I was like WTF? You don’t say something cryptic without expecting some prodding. This does confirm the hunch from her photo with him. It was just so random, so coded.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve put up some not so random photos before with similiar intent but not this obvious.

Anyhow I basically told her face to face level eyed that she needs to stop, as her friend I just don’t want her hurting herself because this fellow isn’t going to leave the stability of his marriage for her. Sorry. She seemed a bit cresfallen and before we left Thread (a cool bookstore! ) we had discussed it again and it boils down to the fact that she isn’t getting any younger and the attention of any man would be helpful at this point.

When I speak with her I can generally be very straightforward and yet I don’t just drop a ton on her when I have news. I didn’t mention my marriage counseling, but I did going into a few things briefly weighing heavily on my heart.

In other news I did find four new leads for the leather collar I want to get for Nina, difficult finding one with a steel loop with a ball swivel. Hopefully by the end of the week I’ll have some answers if some of the artisans in the city can do it.

Anyhow I’m home and I’m a bit tired so I guess this is where I’ll stop for now.