Chaosbride

July 12, 2009

hellions from hell is fun to say

Ok, so I wrote about Baboo moving into the "room" next to mine. It actually connects to my house by a door that was sealed over. Anyway, with Baboo taking over the payment for it, he’ll be putting all of his "stuff" in there … but still staying primarily with me. He has already talked about using his bigger tv in my room and the satellite DVR that he has. So yeah. He’ll be moving in with me with the option to run away to a room that my children won’t be allowed into. He will also have his own private entrance and stuff too… so even when his brother moves in, it will be pretty self contained. I’m not sure if he’ll want to use my kitchen and stuff… but if you don’t cook, why would you need it?

I guess it’s just the fact of having someone who can "observe" how I handle my kids and stuff that bothers me. That is what bothered me in the other house. I want to be able to yell my head off and call my kids hellions from hell and not feel like someone might be thinking I’m a bad mom. Cuz I’m not. But they drive me to madness so often, it might seem like it to an outsider!

Anyway, I’ll call Creepy Eddie (My landlord) after work today to let him know. I’m sure he’ll be happy cuz he’s been wanting to get someone in there, but it’s hard when there is no kitchen…

So that means, until his brother moves in, we’ll have an extra bathroom and a bedroom to use for stuff. My little brother might be able to use it for a time, but I might still try to set up his area in the living room for now. I am also going to see about making the pull out couch bed nice so he can start sleeping on that. I’m thinking I’ll buy an egg crate thingie to soften it up and stuff. I need to also get a cabinet or something so he can store his stuff and I have a feeling I’ll end up buying him a few outfits on Wedneday when we go shopping for beach stuff.

So yeah, no word from ANY social worker. I’m just not sure what to do. I’ll keep doing what I’m doing but I might call the office near me and request a social worker there to help me figure out what’s going on. I really need to get some help with food and stuff, I’m only surviving now because my car payment went down.

speaking of that dumb Kia, still no repsonse to my letter. I’ll re-send it this week if I remember, no later than next week.

Bank of America fucked me over. I sent an application for a reduced payment THAT THEY SENT ME back in February. With NO WORD OF REPLY FROM THEM, they have deferred my debt to collections.

GREAT.

So now I have this letter from some collections place saying they want the full amount (over 3 grand) all at once… uhhh. If I had that money, I’d have paid the shit off. I don’t know if collections will let me do a payment plan, but I guess I’ll call them.

whatever, good bye credit, nice to know you (yes, i’m thinking of the Incubus song! ha ha)

I figure I’ll be able to get a house at 40… that’s about when I’ll have all this mess cleaned up.

whatever.

Anyway, blah blah blah depressing!!!!

Lunch Countdown (cuz you’re so into it) 45 minutes!

I really want to eat now even though my lunch isn’t that great.

whatevah.

So what was I gonna say?

I said enough.

Wow! This is moving so quickly! How are you feeling? Excited? Nervous? As for screaming Hellions from Hell? I am so going to do that…. Kidding. But it does have a nice ring to it. 🙂

sepiasmile

July 13, 2009

You update while I’m reading the last one, goodness! I know what you mean – but he’s not an outsider, exactly. I’m not sure how it is over there, but here you can be classed as homeless if you’re living as your brother is, which would mean more help/money… I know that’s what James is doing right now, as he’s on his parents couch after the blowout with his flatmate.

babyontha1

Ummmm, I smell popcorn. So yeah, YAY! HIM is moving in! Now that is just grand. Seed planting to come next (fingers crossed)

-Blue

The popcorn she smells is mine. YUMMY! :o)

Jaded

That is ridiculous that no social worker has called back.

Whippet Boy

Thanks for the note. This sounds like it’s working out for you in a good way, mainly down to your hard work and perserverance. So hope it keeps moving along that way for you all. I hate companies power over you these days with credit records and stuff, one late payment can royally fu*k up everything, stupid bank. Peace.

M.C.

CadenJamesMommy

I like Hellions from Hell! LOL I hope things work out well with Baboo moving in! 🙂

amanduh

ryn: Well, they didn’t have any loaner phones left @ that store and I really didn’t feel like driving around town looking for another tmobile store. Too hot for that shit. lol! Eh, my new phone should be here by tomorrow (HOPEFULLY) at the latest, Wednesday. I should be able to live. I hope!! LOL!

Beautiful406

Ok. Got ya on the house situation. I guess in a way, it is pretty cool for it to be like that, but yeah.. it’s hard to have someone else there who may or maynot judge you on your parenting. I guess time will tell. But I am hoping for the best. I want you happy! And damn the social workers, Wells Fargo, and BOA. They all suck!

ryn: you make a good point. i dunno. i had a good father figure early on. a bad one later and was raised by a single mom for a lot of my life too. i think a boy does need a man to show him how to be a man to some extent, and a single mom needs to encourage his manliness by letting the kids spend time with men she trusts–be they friends or brothers or coaches (like in my case). <P> but yeah, i think that could have something to do with it. i’m not sure it’s just single moms though. i think people are generally weaker then they used to be because of bad parenting. everybody wins now. its all about self esteem. i think learning to lose is important. i think getting picked on is important. you either overcome it or you don’t. parents today protect their kids too much, shelter them, don’t let them fight their own battles. anyway…don’t get me started! lol!

Effing Bank of America. I swear! They screw everyone over. I’m angrier than angry for you!

still broken

Ignore the collection letters. Recycle them. Save the planet. I’m glad I worked in that industry for so long, because now I know how to avoid their annoyances, but it stole part of my soul that I’ll never get back…

I hate when people can watch how I parent my children constantly. People expect your children to be well behaved but they don’t want you to punish them when they act up. You can’t have both. I’m not a bad mom, but I’m strict. And ya know what, my kids are well behaved! *L* I hate BOA. I’ve been in banking for 9 years and would NEVER work or bank with them!

KPinK

There are so many people in this (yours and my) position right now. I know how you feel about the yelling thing. But sometimes, to be a good mom, you have to yell… 🙂

No Heart No Foul

July 21, 2009

hahah I lost my ‘watch me parent’ phobia long ago. I’m one of those moms who will bust my kids butt in the middle of wal mart after a couple of warnings and then threaten to bust the butt of anyone who stares lol