I Should Have Known Better!
I should have remembered the words of Robert Burns!
The best laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men, Gang aft agley,
Plans I had for visiting Denver this Spring have gone down the Dumper.
Keeping and caring for the MIL at home instead of in a care facility is now a two person job most of the time. She now requires assistance with everything.
Her mental state can best be described as CRS. Confusion Reigns Supreme. Yeah, the other definition applies too.
The oldest BIL walks in the house and asks Who am I going to be today? It could be the MILs Father, Husband, any of her four brothers, or he could be her oldest son. Take your pick.
This past Sunday her oldest granddaughter (our oldest niece) and one of her daughters stopped over. Youngest BIL, father of our oldest niece was there as well.
Youngest BIL asked me several times, How can she always remember who you are but never knows who I am? All I could reply was Beats the hell out of me!
She never has forgotten my name or that I am her son in law. About half the time she doesnt recognize my Wife-Unit as being her daughter.
Most of the time when the tv is one she thinks that what she sees on the screen is taking place in the house.
Life gets interesting.
Remember: Be nice to your kids. They pick your nursing home.
You’re much stronger than I. I had to bail out or go mad myself.
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It was that way with both my grandmothers. My mother’s mother always knew who my niece was but didn’t know me for the last several years of her life.
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i am taking an exit before i go to a nursing home.
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Ain’t old age fun? Methinks the Golden Years may be Fool’s Gold.
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When I was growing up my parents assigned my brother, sister, and I chores. We cleaned, did yard work, pretty much everything that my parents didn’t want to do. For this, they paid us a pittance. I told my mother when she is aging, if she doesn’t want to go to the home, she can live at my house rent-free. But, she has to do pretty much everything I don’t want to do, like yard work and cleaning
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Something tells me that isn’t how it normally works, but we can laugh about it now. 🙂
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you are a strong supportive man. i admire that alot
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My friend Jake’s grandmother was like that before she died; couldn’t remember anything about anyone in the present, but man, ask her about something 40 or 50 years ago, and it was right there as if it had happened yesterday. The only person she seemed to recognize was one of Jake’s aunts. At one point, she had totally FORGOTTEN that she had several other children. Very sad. You are a good manto take care of your MIL. Like Pelican, I admire that. 🙂
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Dementia is a strange thing.
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I’m sorry you can’t make it out here, but MIL is very lucky to have you. Wil
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What a strong guy you are.
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