What are The Rules of Engagement…

in the battle of the sexes? Or anywhere else?

One of my favourite diarists was asking why women are always saying they want a bright, sensitive and dedicated sort, when it’s been his experience that women are not necessarily attracted to that kind of man.

And he has a point, I guess.

 

I know for myself that I have dated some extremely nice men….men who were attentive, and kind, and could make intelligent conversation and crack a  joke or two… who I never ended up dating for long, or sleeping with, because there was no spark there.

I have also dated some bastards who I couldn’t keep my hands off of.

 (And I don’t regret a minute of any of it, lol.)

 

Women are always accusing men of ‘letting the little head rule the big head’ when it comes to matters of the heart, but I’m wondering how many women would admit that we pretty much do the same?

Short poll for women:

Who would you rather date ( by ‘date’, I mean the sort which ends up with you returning home at a very late hour with an irrepressible smile on your lips and a wadded up pair of panties in your purse)?

 

1. Tom Hanks or Hugh Grant?

2. Albert Einstein or Indiana Jones?

3. Al Gore or Bill Clinton?

 

Ok, I realize that last one was a toughy, since many of us would rather not sleep with either of those men. And there’s always the matter of taste when it comes to physical appearance.

 

I really think that sexual attraction gets you through the first 3 or 4  months, and then there must be a basic emotional and social compatability (as well as a strong desire to be in a relationship) to get you through the invariable fluctuations in ‘need’. That’s where nice guys are great finishers.

 

 

Here’s the real poll for today:

 

I recently came across a file that a supervisor had inadvertently left in our public work space. In it were several memoes related to the recent attempts of management to ‘fire’ a nurse that works on a different shift than mine. Something that should be mentioned at this point is how, in the financial crunch that New York State currently finds itself, the administrators of my work site are ‘firing’ people after they indicate they plan to look for a new job. It’s what happens when they put on a hiring freeze….you can replace fired workers, but if someone quits, you have to reapply for that job title. This can take several months. This male nurse has worked on my unit for 2 years. Thus far, they have endured whatever level of competence he possessed. Now, for whatever reason, he has come into disfavour. The memoes I read were pretty explicit in how they wished to create a ‘paper trail’ to ‘justify getting rid of him’. This nurse is not incompetent, but he was poorly trained to our unit when they did a similiar pogrom type clearing out 2 years ago. He makes minor errors in the paperwork, but no serious mistakes. They have not made their move on him yet, but they’re circling him like sharks.

 

Did I mention I work at a place where the mental health and fitness of persons is determined? I swear, if all corporate work sites are like this, it’s a wonder that more people are not going ‘postal’.

 

 

 

Would you warn your co-worker?